then to stand up for themselves, and speak their minds, or they would never measure up?
2006-07-02 05:17:42 · 8 answers · asked by Sassy 6 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Teaching children to speak and wait their turn is teaching them proper manners. There is nothing wrong with saying to a child to be quiet while sitting at the dinner table or elsewhere. They should be able to speak when it is their turn. That is, I dislike it when children constantly interrupt adult talk without being told they must wait their turn.
This only teaches them respect. If a child is timid, no amount of letting them speak up will make them stand up for themselves as adults. That is something they will learn as they grow up and live in society.
I believe in letting children be rambunctious when it is their playtime. At other times, they should learn to be a bit more quiet when the situation is called for.
Children should not be told to sit and and shut up. That is unacceptable behaviour on the adult's part.
(sending you big hugggggsssssssss)
2006-07-05 06:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can remember so many times going to visit at grandma's house (no I'm not Red Riding Hood), just to sit there on her couch. The old sentiment that 'children are to be seen and not heard' was always running through my head.
I hope that parents today will remember that the little people they live with are so impressionable and need to be heard. Their opinions, thoughts, feelings, no matter how silly they may sound to some adults, are precious. To 'stifle' them means to put them in a world where their confidence withers. Let your children be heard and encourage them to express their thoughts and feelings. This will nurture their self-worth and create HUGE self-esteem.
2006-07-02 12:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by Karen P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes years to undo what took only seconds to instill. But as the world changes.....we tend to transform as well. Confusion though? I'm not sure. Cautious? Perhaps. But standing up for ourselves is imperative in a world such as the one we live in today. We souls much younger than ourselves speak with confidence, we tend to stand up and voice ourselves right back. And then.......the transformation begins. I think these days the works are just softer.....Keep quiet unless you feel strongly about something. That is what we tend to live by today.
(stay strong. (kiss))
2006-07-05 13:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I second that....it is a constant fight in our home as to whether my children should be raised (as my hubby was) to be obedient children, or as I was to be independant adults. I believe I'm raising my boys to be men not kids...they must know when and how to stand up for themselves. Best wishes
2006-07-02 12:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grown people are nothing but big children.They are amazed by what they are told becouse no one did it for a long time.Anyway,they like when you yell them what to do,cause they're overweighted with responsibility.
2006-07-02 12:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by vagar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa.........deja vu....I sat down and shut up for 10 friggin' years....It's time for me to stand up, or I'll never respect myself. Sorry..This question kinda touched a nerve with me....
2006-07-05 12:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by itty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Valid point.... you know you cn slways speak your mind from a sitting position too
2006-07-02 12:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're right - I like this one too.
We are told we are smart, we are told to "smarten up" - and then we are told "don't be smart!" - confusing, isn't it??
2006-07-02 12:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋