2006-07-02 04:07:21 · 8 answers · asked by sam f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, if you want him to live with you, have a long talk with your ex-wife about it. Try to work it out. But, make sure you can handle a 16-year-old by yourself.
2006-07-02 04:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by unsersmyboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. You need to have a long phone conversation with her. Or least go over there and talk to her about it. Then again she could not know , that he wants to move out from there. If you tell her about it, it would come as a shock to her. Then she might be thinking , what has she done wrong .
If you son has not told her, well he needs to let her know. Some boys rather live with the father. Because there could be problems, that they feel that their father be better to handle . If she agree and let your son move in with you.
Then you need to set some rules and guildlines. Since he be under your roof, then he needs to follow your rules. Tell him if that don't seem right by him. Then he can always go home to mom.
Good Luck !!!
2006-07-02 11:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find out WHY he wants to come live with you. Is he running away from some rules he doesn't like at his mom's place, or otherwise using the threat of moving in with you to manipulate her? If so, he shouldn't be allowed to do that.
Also, are you able to meet his needs - basic physical needs, education, stability, emotional needs - at least as well as his mother? Are you prepared for the level of responsibility that taking care of a 16-year-old FULLTIME requires?
What are his mother's feelings on this? If she is a good mother to him, you don't want to disrespect her in any way.
2006-07-02 11:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with his mothers. I mean, as a mother she wants her boy to be happy. And if this, is leaving her and coming to live with you then she should agree. Also, ur son is 16-grown up enough so he can make up his mind about his thing...
2006-07-02 11:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that you all 3 need to express your thoughts and feelings on the matter, openly and honestly. And the ground rules should be laid out for no misunderstanding. If all are agreeable, there should be no problem. If not, you may need to consult with a divorce attny to resolve any possible issues.
2006-07-02 11:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important to give your son as much happiness as you can; but you should also look at what they need first! Is it better that he go to his father's house- good role models around, adequate schooling, and such. If the essentials aren't there for the taking, Its better he stay with you; not his father.
2006-07-02 11:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Chass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd talk to the mother about it. If she says no then I don't think you can really go against her wishes. If she says yes then well take him.
2006-07-02 11:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by PB&J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why can't he??? Need more info.
2006-07-02 12:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋