is 19 too young to have a husband and a baby?

Answer 1

I dont think its too young as long as you are mature enough to be a responsible mom and wife and if your husband is a good man. I married too young but I was immature and should have waited. But I think men are a few years behind in the maturity aspect than women are.

Answer 2

That depends. I was 15 when I had my first kid, and 16 when I married my first husband. I didn't mind having the kid, cause I kinda grew up with my kids. I had 3 before I was 21. So that is ok., but then again I missed doing all the good things that young people without kids got to do. A lot of single young people don't like hanging around with people who are married, even though they are the same age. That's only because you will have an extra responsibiliy. Now if you are already pregnant and cannot take care of the child and don't want to marry the father, you can do one of three things. Raise the kid yourself, put the kid up for adoption, there are a lot of people who can't have their own, or ask a responsible family member to care for the child until you are mature and ready to take on the responsibility. They can always keep reciepts and you can always pay them back, and still have the kid in your life. The choice is yours.
If you just want to get married because you think you love the guy, ask your self these questions. (Remember, I am on my fourth marriage and know these things) 1. Do I miss him terribly when we are away from each other?, 2. Do we have great converstions about everything including things happening in the world? 3. Does he get angry when you are ill? 4. Does he drink a lot or do drugs? 5.Do I love just being in the same room with him and not even talking? a comfortable silence? 6.Do you have your own thoughts on subjects and your own opions? some guys want you to agree with everything they say or do. 7. Does he go out with the guys, and then not let you have a nite out with the girls? 8. This is the most important question, Do you really think he would make a good father? and a good dad? would he be there for the child and would he make sure the child had everything he needed, and would he be able to support the child?
Think about these questions, Answer them honestly, and not the way you would just like them to be. Because you need to be honest with yourself and each other to have a good relationship. Good luck, and may God richly Bless you.

Answer 3

Some people at 19 are mature enough and some are not. From experience, more women are mature than men at that age. But having a husband and baby at 19 and not experiencing life as a single adult can be quite stressful. Some day later in life a person will want to relive the day/years they thought they missed out on by having a husband and child at a young age. I think it is better to wait at least a few more years...but if not, then hope for the best...some people make it.

Answer 4

If you can avoid the coimmitment of mariage and having children so young I would if I was you.

At 19 you have been an adult for such a short time, and there is so much so see and do out in the world before we give over our lives to the car and support of the young. Our personalities have not defined themselves fully at that age, and you can find that one of the other partner may grow up faster than the other, or go off in a tangental direction to what was expected from the partner.

That is okay - they are allowed too, that is ntotally their right that they grow in the direction that suits their personality, and if they have restrictions on them then one or the other , and sometimes children can get hurt and disapointed by the direction they chose.
This happened to me, with us both being 20 when we married, young, naive and inexperienced. Needless to say we FELT plenty old enough at the time!!! Looking back I can see we weren't.

Partners tend to be a lot more stable around the mid 20s, having a clearer idea what they want to do with their lives. Children depend on having a mature parent to guide them through their lives.

Good luck with it and take care

Answer 5

Yes AND No - List the pros and cons.
CON: 1-You give up your years of seeing what the world is like, as a young person. 2- You take on one of the biggest responsibilites in life. 3- Every word, action and behavior affects the life of the child and you are responsible to keep them alive, a wrong decesion and that child coulld die 3- You don't give yourself the chance to look around and make sure this is the one person you want to be with
PRO 1- You won't be alone. 2 - If it is REALLY love, and not just lust or lonliness and the NEED to have a partner, then it could last for the rest of your life.

Why do you want a husband and child? To get away from something, to have something that is yours, to be all grown up, or because you already have them? Do you want this for the right reasons or the wrong reasons? The ANSWER is in your heart, not on the internet.

Answer 6

well yea in a way as u havent finished college made ur money to supply the needs of a baby and.. far as marriage no bu tthen again it is harder to know what to expect at that age u 2 will grow and learn harder if u havent had much experience in relationships and living together but u will learn and th ebaby hold off if u can as this is a hardship double whammy just being together in marriage learning that is hard enuf to go thru at 1st the baby poses a harder challenge and often to much is to much .. get the money and work ur way up to afford that and grow with the person 1st for a bit unles sur in the sit now .. be prepared as money is the 1st issue of arguing then time together is another. then attitudes come forth and happenings crisises with baby unless u have supportive parents while u 2 go to college and the bux and the stamina of tolerance and maturity - to have mere jobs better hope it has medical benefits as babies can have health problems and BIG needs.. can u be able to go out with ur hubby an affor to? at 19 no one wants to stay home babysitting while a concert is going on or a festival there goes vacation too. most young newly weds divorce the baby will def make it more faster. how many men at 19 say i want to stop living a full life now come and go when they want go here there be able to afford a car music- things in life when it all goes for up keep on rent baby food etc it cant happen with 1 income even if he is in the army.takes 2 with same goal and money and drive and respect and tolerance are u ready to give up youth so quick? be happy in love for now take time to live ur life a bit your so young.

Answer 7

I was. It depends on the person. No matter how old you are it is really about maturity and responsiblity. Some are older, but can't handle kids well. Yet some younger people can. Some people mature faster than others due to neccesity while others seem to refuse to grow up. Once you can put the responsibilities of a child and husband before your whims Im sure you just about responsible or ready enough for a baby.

Answer 8

On average, Canadian adults entered their first marriage when they were about 25 years old

The success or failure of a marriage is ultimately decided by the deeply personal dynamics of the couple and their unique situation. However, a hazard model can be used to calculate the relative likelihood that a person's marriage will end in separation or divorce, given that the individual has certain socio­demographic characteristics.

Someone marrying in their teens faces a risk of marriage dissolution almost two times higher than a person who marries between the ages of 25 and 29. In contrast, people who wait until their mid­30s or later to marry run a risk 43% lower.

Read more on the stats in life.

Answer 9

if you were born with 5 millions dollars or a silver spoon in your mouth go a head. If prince charles or oprah if your mother and father go for it and cancel the husband part. Just go to the sperm bank.You are 19 Go to school and learn something. You have your whole life to do that. Believe me men arent going anywhere we will alwasy be here.oh i get it you want the kids and a familly. That is cool. But in the real world, you would want to get the degree then the men and kids. if you think child support money can take care of your babies, like biggie said You are wrong. you are dead wrong lol

Answer 10

My opinion to this is yes, but I mean if you Feel like your ready and your husband Feels he's ready and you two have enough money to support eachother and the baby then who am I to say it's to early.?.? Now if you aren't ready then don't even if the husband is. Making a family isn't on a time constraint, so Be Sure.