how do you reason with a 22 year old son.?

Question

i have a 22 year old son and i want to help him understand just everyday life..bren

Answer 1

kids regardless of their age have a mind of their own..at 22, he should be mature enough to know what is right or wrong...if you still have to guide him along, then do it with lots of patience...

Answer 2

I have a 21 year old who will be 22 in October. He is expecting his first child any day now. I have tried forever to reason with him about things and help him understand the way life is. I have tried to tell him life doesn't always turn out the way you want. I have finially decided that I am wasting my time. They don't want to get it. They wonder around in a blinding fog of unrealistic expectations and when something goes wrong they run to us. I have finally figured it out for me though. I decided to start a new chapter in my life. I am moving to Florida on Friday and letting him face the reality of REAL life. I think sometimes the only thing you can do is set back and wait for whatever part of the brain that deals with reasoning in men, to develop, and then just maybe they will get it.
I wish you all the luck in the world with your son, but my best advise is tough love.

Answer 3

You listen and listen , and when you see there is a moment that you can share , then do so. Relate back to when you were his age. Any answer with depth and weight will hit home. In other words , if you have been in his situation tell him. If something worked for you, then share it. If you didn't have the answer, convey your feelings at the time and commiserate. Bouncing ideas off each other, or knowing someone else who has been in the same situation that he could talk to could be very helpful. Then stand back and let him make his own decisions, and take the consequences.

Answer 4

Part of growing up is separating from the parents, that often means rejecting things the parents say. Its a natural process. Unfortunately a lot of valuable information is lost that way. I know, it happened to me!

Best I can offer is, go out for lunch with him sometime, just you two alone, hold his hand, look him in the eye, tell you love him, and that what you are going to tell him is very important. Have what you want to say prepared in your mind so you can get it out clearly, simply, and as attractively as possible for him to hear and react to. "There are some things you just have to do to survive in life, whether you like it or not."

Answer 5

It is difficult - he neds to experience life for himself and have you in his corner to be there if he needs you for anything. I have a 21 year old who talks with me about certain things going on in his life, but I do not meddle in his...he asks my opinion and I will give it, he has learned much on his own this way and appreciates me all the more for it.

Answer 6

you don't. If he asks for the benefit of your wisdom and experience, give it kindly without lecturing. Otherwise, stay out of his life and let him learn his lessons. I was 22 not that long ago and at that age, you don't yet fully realize that others may be older and wiser!!

Answer 7

If you haven't already taught him from young...it's kind of late to start now.
Do you have any relatives that he would listen to? Often kids at this age won't listen to their parents, but they might listen to another relative or older friend. Maybe you could approach it from that direction.

Answer 8

Wait until he is 26?

Answer 9

You can't reason with them they are smarter than you at this age. They also need to make their own mistakes and learn from them, yes it hurts us moms to see them struggle but they can't truly grow it they don't do it on their own.

Answer 10

u cant. im 22 so i noe. let him learn frm his own experiences. besides he is an adult now, time for u to let go.