People talk against abortion and tell you that you should place the child up for adoption...but isn't that...

Question

bad, too. I mean, not as bad as abortion, but don't you think we should stop saying how birth control and placing a child up for adoption are better than abortions. Don't you think instead of making debates against abortion and pro birth control and adoption we should be try to help the kids in the adoption agencies and making people less ignorant about pregnancy and sex?

Not every child is going to get adopted.

You're not answering my question, really, your just telling me that abortion is wrong and adoption is better. I asked don't you think we should help children in adoption agencies, and teach people to be less ignorant about pregnancy and sex?

Answer 1

First of all, I am pro choice--but that is not the same as pro abortion. I don't believe abortion should ever be illegal, but I agree at least partly with the platform of a group called Feminists for Life, who say that the most pro-woman position is to help women raise their babies, instead of making them choose between adoption and abortion.

The first step is of course to educate people about sex and pregnancy, and that has to include birth control. Birth control should be much more easily available--the pill should be given over the counter, as should the morning after pill, without age restriction. That should be done along with comprehensive sex education. When sex is more out in the open, young people understand the consequences better and are able to handle it more maturely--for instance, actually discussing with their partners whether to have sex and how to use protection, instead of it "just happening" one night. If you've never talked about sex before, you're not going to talk about it openly and honestly with your boyfriend. You're going to stumble around cluelessly. Preventing pregnancy is the most important step.

After that, it's important to support rather than stigmatize and alienate young women, their partners and their babies. Why not create a society where women feel like they CAN raise their babies, rather than knowing they can't and making the horrible choice between abortion and adoption? Give them pregnancy and parenting classes, breastfeeding support, child care while they continue their education or work, longer paid maternity/paternity leaves (six months), and health care for mother and baby (for everyone) regardless of their income. These resources are out there, yes, but in limited supply, and it is usually a source of shame to look for help like that in our society. WIC is a great program, for example, and we need more.

We need to change the way we look at all mothers, so that motherhood isn't a death sentence for your career. How many women get asked in job interviews, "What child care arrangements do you have if your baby is sick?" Ok, now how many men get asked that? Parenting should be a partnership. If a woman chooses to spend time at home with her children, she should be rewarded for that when she returns to the workplace, not penalized. Time spent as a caregiver should count for Social Security credits, for one thing. The maturity and experience one gains through parenting should really count for more than it does--you don't just become a vacant headed housewife after you've had kids.

Parenting is a life long choice, and if we support parents and children in every way possible, we eliminate the need to make a choice between adoption and abortion. Both carry life long consequences, and neither is the ideal choice.

Answer 2

The problem is, you can talk all you want about the subject, but there will always still be those that wont listen. And then you get into the different situations, that involve abortion.
In some cases, you have the parents of the teenager force the daughter to have one.
You always have cases, where the teenage daughter's boyfriends, parents, go behind the girls parents back and take the her to get an abortion, and they basically either threaten or brainwashed her into doing it.
And sadly, there are the cases in rape or if the mother is at a health risk if she continues to carry the child.
And there are many, many more situations. I am however against abortion, I think it is wrong to end a helpless life, that can't defend for it's own. It is no more different then shooting an unarmed man.

Answer 3

Yes ,Children that are old enough to make a baby need to be taught about sex and the consequences, also the protesters against abortion would be better to put there energy and resources into helping the children get adopted ,or be foster parents. Standing around with a sign or worse is just wasting time.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I think it's better to put a child up for adoption. This child could be place in a good home and raised by good parents. A child would have a good chance of having a life. Whereas abortion a child does not have a chance at all.

Answer 6

Well, first of all, if people wouldn't fool around without wanting a child, this wouldn't happen.

I don't believe in abotion for myself, but I respect that others think differently. I don't think abortion should be used as a form of birth control, but there are some times abortions are good, like when the mother is in danger, or something like that.

However, if it were me, I would not only bring the child to term, I would raise it myself. But that's just me.

Answer 7

yes we should help the children in the adoption agencies, but help them with what? I mean with teaching people to be less ignorant about pregnancy and sex we really can not do because people are gonna do what they want we can tell them this and this about sex and pregnancy it is going to go in one ear and out the other, just like drugs we constantly go around telling people about what drugs do but they keep doing it. people are gonna do what they want.

Answer 8

I agree that we need better sex education. That would be getting to the root of the problem. Teaching our kids morals and values would definitely be the better way to go versus letting them choose between abortion and adoption.

Answer 9

Sure, we should all talk less and do more! But the fact of the matter is that people are here, to talk, debate, and learn about options and choices. As far as birth control, and sex education the numbers show that they are failing, and the media is trying to show that abstinence programs are religious fanatics trying to control people's sexual freedom. Conservatives have a hard time getting their say, and not being portrayed as crazy fanatics. Your screen name makes me think you want to think rationally about these issues, and I think you might want to let people speak and discuss rationally as well. Who knows what they are doing during the day, to support help and educate people.

Answer 10

It is needed that we talk and educate people abt everything related to sex, and pregnancy. Lack of inforation create issues. And it is also essential we show sympathy (or do I mean empathy?) and understanding of what the girl is going through. After all, society plays such a huge role in her decision (sometimes). So yea, there is so much the word can do for her and evryone involved.

Answer 11

Of course, not having children at all until you're ready is the best option of all. However, once that issue has been crossed, you cannot "unring the bell" so to speak. So if you have a pregnant woman who is willing to carry a child to term so that the child can live with loving, willing parents who are unable to conceive themselves, I see that as a win-win for everyone.