My second marriage has ended and I wonder if I'll get married again for a third time. I loved the first wife, I loved the second; but I also feel scorched. Is it possible for a third marriage to work, I'm hopeful but realistic as well.
2006-07-02 02:51:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love is always out there but its not as easy as having a friend.
You grow with a partner and it takes the best compatiblity possible. You must learn to include the necessary things in a relationship for its longevity as well as having the right companion on ya side. compassion, mental intimacy, constant communication, dedicated commitments, and understanding of what each other wants. THe most common things that make a relationship fail is lack of self control, impatience, criticism, and not understanding the role expected as lovers. Is three a charm? It could be ten it could be one, just depending on that particular formula. Everyone already knows what to do in a relationship but its the point "can they do it". You must try to tame a heart as evil will exist. Not control because thats a ticket to a new divorce. BUt with positive approaches such as, "speaking ya heart", "add your personal feelings about situations", "let them know when your unhappy without faults", "being a team player that shows". If a women is disrespectful, selfish, or dishonest, then you see where its leading as they are "infectious to love". When you see privacy then include yourself. When you see disinterest, get creative. When you see evil, get loving. It takes this patience and being stern as you KNOW this how to be in a relationship. Three strikes your out from the jump and i bet they'll get the picture. Some times you might wanna readjust after one strike if its so much a "foul ball". Its harder in these days and time as we can get into so much evil that astrays relations. BE part of someone's heart and understand each other's purpose should draw a good relationship. Dont worry about the times you've been married and value the good times as it wasn't a lost at all. Find happiness and rid evil. The journey continues without regrets.
2006-07-02 03:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by carolinakres 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is my third marriage. Iam not in love with the first or second one still. It don't matter how many books you read on marriages. The video's you watch, people who you talk to.
All marriages are different. The top, middle, and the end. We should know by now it's now a fairy tale dream. We don't ride off together in the end like movies. And it don't matter how many marriage therpists there are.
Noone knows how a marriage, is going to be before getting married. We can test the water so many times before that, we still going to be confuse on how it's going to go.
If you want to try a third marriage, you need to try to improve what happen between the last two. Make sure that what broke the camel back, won't effect the other one. Then again the same mess could happen to this one too.
Like I said, we don't know what it brings us. We just know how he/she is before we marry. Don't matter how long we had live with them. Before we walk down the aisle.
I said this before, it's not how many times you been married. It's who you marry to what counts. Just because one, two, three, four spouses ruin it for you then. Don't mean that number five going too.
2006-07-02 11:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order that another marriage to work, you have to do some inner work on yourself first.
If you don't change, the cycle repeats.
All relationships are about our own self. The partner is a mirror in which you see the part of yourself that you do not accept. This is the part of yourself you need to befriend, accept, deal with, let go,and love. Do not repress it and throw it to the basement. Give light to it in order to transform.
2006-07-02 10:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No......it might take you a few more tries.
Just try to hold off on actually getting married. You have reason to be more cautious about sayinng I DO. Just have a long term relationship and try to learn from your other failed marriages, if you see similar problems then you know not to get married.
2006-07-02 10:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mickey Rooney and Elizabeth Taylor tried seven times. Perhaps not
2006-07-02 09:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. i do beleive that bad things happen in 3's....and good things too. but im not too sure about gettin married. My mom is in her 3rd marriage. So is my grandma, everythings goin gr8 4 my grandma. But my mom fights alot with her husband. And also i dont like him very much. Dunno that there is a certain way for anythin to go. Good luck with that though
2006-07-02 09:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by jo-jo 2468 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was for me!!! But I took a good long hiatus between marriages - 4 years- to get myself together.
2006-07-02 10:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends. if both wives divorced you, then you're doing something wrong. if you divorced them, then don't rush. wait till you really find the one.
2006-07-02 09:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by avielleb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a husband yourself man, not a wife. you are a gay
2006-07-02 10:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Kehgohar R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure
2006-07-02 10:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋