i m 27 f indian hindu. married for last 7 yrs .we work at the same place.v 've 2 male kids they r 4 n 6.my hubby is young and smart me too.he is not charecterless still he doesnt have any interest in me frm the vry begining of my marriege.he is 10 yrs older than me.he is a b,com.i m a writer of educational books for upto 10th std.he runs a cyber cafe at the home itself.i too look after the cafe sometimes.v both love each other vry much.but he doesnt **** .he does it only once or twice in a month.several times i told him that i wann him to **** me still it doesnt draw his attention at all.i feel a badly need for my body it makes restless.i m vry puzzle to find the reason for last 7 yrs.i m an M.A.in psycology still unable to understand him.plz tell me y do he is so careless abt me n my bodily need?bfre some days i v warned him if he would nt change his attitude abt this he ll lose me forever.but he was so cool at that too.it was really strange for me.i m realy vry tense plzz help me.
2006-07-02 02:27:49 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you are experiencing is "Sexual Frustration" from the lack of sex. I, too, experienced this when I was married. You have talked to him, to no avail, so the only solution I see is, 1. Take care of yourself(masturbation), or 2. Divorce him, to give you the freedom to see other men. Good Luck! I have certainly "been there, and done that"...for 25 years, but not now. Now, I am divorced, and free to see whom I wish.
2006-07-02 02:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe some of these answers. Is this world made up of a bunch of uneducated heathens?? Try to get him to go to a counselor. It sounds like you guys are going through a bad patch in your marriage. Marriage has its ups and downs. Pray about it. Use your womanly charms on him. Actually working and just day to day life especially with small children can hinder your sex life.I just watched a TV show on that last night. Some intensive threrapy should get to the bottom of the problem. Good luck.
2006-07-15 05:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by deb z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should get yourself some counseling. There could be a variety of reasons for his disinterest....anything from a medical reason to him being gay. It is very difficult, the only one you have the ability to change is yourself though. Work on making yourself happier. You may just find in the long run that this is not what you want out of life, or you may decide that you care for him enough to put up with not being satisfied in this way. It is not an easy road. Again, get yourself some counseling....
2006-07-02 02:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Madam, I feel something wrong in his body . Why can't you take him to some Sex specialit for a counselling. That is why he is avoiding you. No males do such things with their wives. they will definitely have normal sex attraction with their wives. This really puzzling me.
Whether he is having any extra marital relationship without your knowledge? I don't want to comment like this on your hubby. I am feeling like that.
Whatever it may be he needs a counselling and a thorough check up of his body.
2006-07-02 02:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your pain. I have the same problem. Nothing I try works and I have PUT UP WITH IT FOR 23 YEARS! My advice, divorce him, shop around til you find someone with the same sex drive ( or more) than you. You will NEVER change him. You dont wanna be married as long as I have thinking some day it will change because I know now that it wont .
2006-07-13 09:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either your husband has someone else or he is no longer interested in you. Ask him what's wrong? Doll yourself up and make dinner for the 2 of you - and then have some foreplay in the bedroom(see what happens).
If that does not work try watching the porn with him, it just may stimulate you both....ha!!
2006-07-02 03:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by shawneegirl3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're flawed. intercourse never will become uninteresting even at 60 plus, and it continually thrills. perhaps there's a alleviation interior the frequency, even though it keeps to be comparable to it replaced into interior the start. i do no longer understand how this is going to become interesting after seeing others. inspite of each and every thing, this is all interior the concepts.
2016-11-01 02:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him why he likes sex so infrequently with you? Was he like that when you were dating...before the marriage? Maybe you might want to go to a couples counselor for additional help, together and separately.
2006-07-02 03:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have sex with him make sure he has alot of pleasure by going down on him.He will be more likely to be interested in the future.
2006-07-02 02:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by Axewielderx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello.. you know what?we have the same issue.. not really a problem but im just confused and it even turned to a point that i am going to monitor where he goes to check maybe he is cheating but its not. what i did was... even he is busy try to make the move. you will be in control or tease him in that way, it may help... just try ..it works.. eheheheh..
2006-07-02 03:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by icon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋