i am 16 years old and i am pregnant. i am still in school. but nobody knows this. not even my parents. HELP!!

Question

My boyfriend doesnt know either.

Answer 1

Speak to your parents NOW!!! Failing to do so will only cause problems later...

Answer 2

You are in a situation that many young girls have been in before. The answer is absolutely clear .... you must talk to your parents and now. It is as simple as that. If they are going to hit the roof, expect it and let the dust settle as it surely will. The next thing is to decide what you are going to do, whether to keep the baby or otherwise. All options should be examined without stress or pressure. You can then arrange to see your GP and or practise nurse if that makes you feel more comfortable. All options can then be discussed again. You have to now make an adult decision even though you are still at school and that can be hard if not impossible. It is therefore important to talk to adult professionals as soon as possible. Your parents will of course over-react, or they may not, but they have been teenagers as well and should, in the end, be there for you. You will get through this but please, please don't clam it up inside you ... it will make you ill. You have done nothing awful, you have just been a teenager ..... and when all the fuss has died down you can learn from this and grow. We all grow by mistakes ... yes everybody does ..... otherwise how would we learn? Good luck .... and hang on in there!

Answer 3

You need to get to a doctor, they will be able to tell you how far gone you are. It is vital that you find this out as soon as possible.

I know its a really scary prospect but a doctor or nurse is bound by patient confidentiality so they can't tell your parents.

I think you should tell someone that can help you through this, there is a decision you need to make and even though your parents will be disappointed they will help you the best they can.

You need to decide if you want to keep the child or have an abortion, at 16 your situation is very difficult and keeping the child will require ALOT of support. But having an Abortion is no easy ordeal to go through. Either decision you make it will stay with you for the rest of your life and at your age it is a very difficult time to be alone.

Be brave, tell your mum, I promise you will feel better once you have.

Remember even though it feels like it, it isn't the end of the world.

I have been through the same thing if you need to chat here's my email [e-mail]

Answer 4

Well well well how you do this depends on your parents, id be scared if they're good parents because theyl make your life miserable for a while, otherwise they may not care. But assuming they do you can expect to be told that your life is ruined, you can expect to have their views on abortion thrust upon you and they may even bring up financial issues. How this goes also depends on your boyfriends reaction. However, it is important during this stressful time to consider the positives, you are now a mum so this should be a proud moment. In the dieal situation your fmaily will lend you support and that I hope they do, however the time has come to grow up really fast so you might feel under pressure at certain times, so its wise to keep someone close at hand to talk with who is on neutral ground. You will have to give up any ideas of going to nightclubs if you want to be a good parent yourself, its up to you to make that decision, but honestly it isnt as bad as it seems. Just talk to people, it will help. Good luck to the future.

Answer 5

The most important thing in any pregnancy is to have support-especially physical/medical & emotional.

Have you consulted with any pregnancy centers in your area? Many of them offer counseling and support groups. Is the father/his family aware or involved?

Are you certain that you can't go to your parents or are you not yet sure what your plans are concerning this pregnancy.

My son recently told me his girlfriend is (5mo's) pregnant. Truthfully I was more disappointed that he felt he had to go through it on his own for so long. He explained that he wanted to think things thru & make solid plans & decisions before breaking the news.

Another important factor is medical and nutritional care for you & baby. The change in hormones, weight. etc can affect your health. It's important to eat well, take vitamins and have regular check ups to make sure that you both continue to be well.
Here is the link to a 24hr crisis prenancy center in case you need someone to talk to: http://www.solutionsphc.com/

I was a young mother myself. I know what you're facing is not easy. There are so many choices including adoption and open adoption which will allow you to still be a part of the childs life. NOTE: Many colleges have become family friendly; offering daycare, family dorms, etc.- if that's a concern.

Whatever choices you make concerning yourself and baby
make sure they're right for you. It's your body and your life. you have to live with the decisions you make a lot longer than anyone else will.

My prayers are with you.
God Bless You

Answer 6

yes tell your parents.. they might be annoyed at first..and there might even be a big argument...how ever most do come around after the shock and they will help you, all they can....but these are questions you have to ask your self...do you want to keep the baby...remember if you do .you will have to look after it for the next 16 to 18 years... it might seem ok now to have a sweet baby to look after and push around in a pram...but remember there are the sleepless nights...dirty bums to be cleaned...stacks of washing.. when they get a bit older they will want the same things as there mates..would you be able to give ,what it wants ...don't forget you will be with the baby / child 24 hours a day...seven days a week...52 weeks a year ...you cant go out with your mates..and night life will be almost non existent..

you could have an abortion.
.that would give you back your life..and hopefully go on to do something with it

what ever you decide i wish you all the best

Answer 7

That sounds like my story. I was 16 pregnant and still in school and scared. My parents didn't know until I was 5 mos. pregnant and that was only because I was gaining weight and my mom had her suspicion. I wish that they had told me about contraceptives and pregnancy.Its not a good feeling knowing that you are going to be a young parent.Talk with your parents asap and seek prenatal care for your unborn child.I wasn't prepare for motherhood and during the moment of passion we don't think about those things.Now that my son is here I love him very much but I wish that I planned for when I wanted to have a baby and not before.

Answer 8

You must speak to someone, your parents should know as keeping it from them will cause problems later on. Atleast seek advice from a doctor or a midwife, they must come across these situations fairly often.

Congratulations, I know your very young and it may seem like it's the last thing you want right now. But as theres no going back that baby will turn out to be the love of your life.

Answer 9

its not the end of the world sweetheart,but you do need to tell someone.sometimes we think our parents are our enemies,but this is not something you can deal with alone.my sister got pregnant at 16 to and the only thing i can remember my mum saying to her after the shock of finding out.is your not the first and your deffenatly won't be the last.so bear this in mind .if you feel you can't confide in your parents,what about the babys dad.are you still in a relationship.remember to that doctors are bound to keep every thing cofidential.if you was my daughter,i'd hold you in my arms and be their for you.remember only you can decide what your futur holds and if the baby's in your future plans.don't worry your life won't stop just because your young.but dom't do this alone its not good for you,theirs all sorts of help these days.take care and goodluck

Answer 10

You need to get all the facts. Check out these sites:

Photos of Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Answer 11

You need to speak to a responsible adult whom you trust like your tutor. Ideally i would say your parents if not then its best you speak to your doctor (GP), they can run through the options for you but they would never pressure you. they wouldn't tell your parents because you are 16 and over and they always keep information confidential.
I hope this all works out for you. Just remember this is an easy decision to make about you and your baby and you will pull through xx