what can i say to those people who see only my inadequacies, faults, and not the real person in me? I know these people have their own faults too.
2006-07-02 00:52:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You could tell them that everybody is perfect in their own unique way. That includes you.
Make a list of your positive qualities and the things you like about yourself (if you are struggling to do this, get a close friend to do it for you). Then remind yourself of these things. You will have convinced yourself first of all. The most important person.
When you've done that, remind the cretins who are belittling you of all the great things you have to offer.
The irony is, you don't have to 'fit in' with what people think is normal. There's no such thing as 'normal.' The more you come out of your shell and show the 'real you,' the more like-minded people will be drawn to you. They will accept you for what you are (and vice versa). Given time, people's negative remarks just won't have any effect on you at all.
Good luck in being you...you're fine as you are
2006-07-03 07:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by The Global Geezer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel by experience....there will always be those people that only look at your faults...but I think you will see that those people tend to ignore there own....In my opinion, the best thing you can do is except your faults and move on...once YOU have truly excepted them, then they should be of no bother to you. After all, were all human
2006-07-02 03:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Necro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you really don't have to say anything to them at all. You are a human being, and that means you are full of beauty and faults. Just like all of us. The folks who only focus on your "problems" are doing so because they don't want to see their own. It's easier to look at you and say "Oh, that person is so messed up!" rather than deal with thier own issues.
Continue to nurture the "real you" and work through your own issues and agendas. You don't have to explain yourself or prove yourself to anybody
2006-07-02 07:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has faults, and should try to overcome them... there is none perfect no not one... but i think you are talking about homosexuals and gays.. and the bible says they are a abomination unto the lord and surley they will not see the kingdom of god... god destroyed sodom and gomarrah for such acts as this and things going on in the world today.. we can not keep making excuses though for our faults.. or are inadequacies.. god knows our hearts and if we are a child of his.. we must strive and live a godly moral life.. because we all will be held accountable for our deeds here on earth someday...
2006-07-02 00:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not different, you are yourself and always have been. Being gay is only part of your life, it only tells the rest of the world what orrientation you are. It doesn't make you who you are. If you have faults then you are human the same as the rest of us. Don't let people slap you down. Be proud of the PERSON you are, not just your orrientation...
2006-07-03 05:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that live in glass houses shouldn't toss stone around, you know, **** could break. Ignore the ignorance and try to educate people about differences in the world. Also think about how you see other people and how you treat them.
2006-07-02 08:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your breath on them. If they're so negative as to only look at the bad points in people, then pity them but don't bother trying to make yourself appealing to them.
They're just wired differently, I guess.
2006-07-02 02:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rise above it, you dont need to say anything. if these people have got nothing better to do than pick out your faults they obviously dont have a life of their own
2006-07-02 00:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by moira m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dwell on the negative differences. Try to concentrate on the parts that you and the other person have in common and try to enjoy their company even if it seems they don't. And whatever you do, keep a smile on your face!
2006-07-02 00:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by A Shade Of Grey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mate why in gods name do you care what other people think?
so you are coloured
so you are gay
be happy for who you are and make a nice cup of tea!
chris
x
2006-07-02 02:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋