i am 16 and possibly pregnant.. should i tell my mother? and can i get an abortino without her consent?

Question

i don't want her to be dissapointed in me, and this might aid in losing her trust again.

Answer 1

abortion is not nessersary , motherhood at 16 is very possible , i have a beautiful son whom i gave birth tow hen i was 16, make sure you think about your choices, murder shouldnt be one of them, im sure your mom would like to know and she will most likley help you through your pregnancy and help raise your child with you, having a child is a blessing , once you get thinking im sure u will begin to relise you can actually be a great mom, hit me up a email if u would like some advice

Answer 2

I was once in your shoes. I had an abortion when I was young. I have thought about that day ever since. I wonder if it was a boy or girl. My child would have been 16 this year and I think about what kind of person he/she would have been. I cant tell you whats right and whats wrong I can say that you are young and you need to talk to someone about this before having it done. Your mom might be upset and dissapointed, but you need to let her know. There are also other choices that you have but you have to decide which is best for you.

Answer 3

You said,"losing her trust again". You haven't lost her trust because she's not trusting you to be close and respectful. She's trusting you to do the kind of thing you've done. Trust is earned! You think you've fooled your mother and you've only fooled yourself!If you get an abortion you will never be able to forgive yourself. You can't undo it. Your just a kid. Grow a little and act like the woman you should be. Tell your mother. Woman to woman. If you can't you're not a woman yet and maybe never will be. You did it. Now stand up for yourself. You'll be surprised and so will your mother. Earn some trust! Quit being a kid that thinks you're putting one over on mum. It's her grandchild. How do you expect she'll feel when she finds out (and she will find out) that you killed it? Maybe that's your point. Maybe your going to show her that your powerful enough to hurt her and there's nothing she can do about it. If so....you are a kid.

Answer 4

Yes, you should tell her. An abortion is not the answer if you are pregnant. I've been in a similar situation and the best thing to do is just come clean. She may be disappointed for a while but in the long run it will be better off. She will reallize that you were trying to be honest with her. If you are pregnant, she will have a grandchild to look forward to. You would have to have consent anyways since you are under 18.

Answer 5

I Had the same scenario 6 years ago. I was 14 and I got an abortion without any parental consent. Well in CA as young as 11 can go and do it without a parent. But after i had it done i vowed i would never again. So 2 days after I turned 17 here comes the best thing thats ever happened. My purpose in life. As far as your mom she'll love you no matter what!Believe me

Answer 6

Girl you should have thought of that before you opened you're legs and well I don't recommend an abortion beacause you'll regret later on when you not able to have kids because of teh abortion so I say you keep it and tell you 're mom ws going and Im pretty sure she'll understand I know you're too young but think about bwfore getting the abortion.

Answer 7

No one can make this decision but I think you should tell your mom. My friend had an abortion at 18 and she has never doubted that decision. Having a baby so young is very difficult. You might also consider counselling. Good luck

Answer 8

Please dont get angry with me, my best friend ( for 14 years ) and I both got prego about 4 months apart, i went first......she had an abortion and I gave birth........she commited suicide three months after her abortion because she couldn't handle that she took her child's life. please dont get me wrong, have an abortion if you feel its the best thing to do. God knows I had my son before I graduated high school and it was the hardest thing in the world. I had no help at all....please sit and think long and hard, having a baby is hard work, especially if the father leaves and your parents wont help, but having an abortion may be harder. weigh all the option...check websites, find support groups, talk to you doctor......but make sure to remember, you were adult enough to have sex, so be adult enough to make the best decision for you and that unborn baby

Answer 9

you know, i did one one day, ... believe me you will regret. i aborted, then my mum knew,. she was even sadder than angry that i kill my baby, she even cried when she knew what i did. and you know the first thing that she told me "im your mum, you should have told me i would i helped you" and i regret cause i kill someone who's got nothing to do with all the bad things i've done. the little person is not responsible for what is happening. you should try to talk to your mum, and tell her what you're going through. i ask you something, your first child is deaf, youe second is blind, your third is retarded, and so is your fourth, and you are pregnant of your fifth child and you already know that there would be a some form of malformation, what would you do? abort or not? answer

Answer 10

Yes, you should tell your mom. Whatever decision you make or have to make in the future will be easier if you have the support of your family. People make mistakes, and moms know this. Losing her trust is not as bad as losing her by not confiding in her.