Ok, so this last April this is what happened:
I had a gf who I loved very much
She got pregnant
I told her that I do not support abortions but if thats her choice I would pay for it/support her decision (I also stated that if she wanted too continue the pregnancy I would be there for her 100%)
She dumped me a week before the pregnancy
I told her I still wanted too go too the clinic with her because I felt it was my obligation
When I got there- she brought her new bf (who she started going out with the day of the abortion)
Now this all happened in April and I still get so upset by it, I do not know how I can get over it or if I should even be so upset. Lately I'm just not interested in relationships,sex,anything concerning it.
2006-06-30 23:32:36 · 9 answers · asked by tampabay5400 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow!
first, >:D<
I'm so sorry this happened to you!
it's natural to be in a time of mourning right now though...
one, mourning the death of your baby, two, mourning the termination of your relationship, and three, hurt that her mourning over your relationship was non-existent!
I would just take some time and focus on other stuff... maybe explore a hobby you never had the chance to...
tend to other relationships and strengthen those...
everything will come back in due time, no worries!
keep us updated!
2006-06-30 23:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by snowcoveredtree 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow. You seem like a nice guy that picked the wrong girl. I know they always say "nice guys finish last" But just know that when you do 'finish' you're gonna find one lucky lady that will treat you a lot better then that other girl did.
Man I cannot get over that. Her new BF must be a weirdo. I don't know too many guys that would go on first date with their girlfriend to the abortion clinic. Hmm...
2006-06-30 23:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's kinda sad! Let's try to understand things before judging them shall we? Why would a woman take her new boyfriend to the clinic for an abortion? People may think it's an easy thing to do. It's about killing an unborn child. Maybe she wanted some company and refused to go through it with someone who wouldn't have accepted her choice. In you case my friend it's clear that your position was'nt positively tuned with her's. So who would you take if you didn't want your family and friends to know??? That's right a stranger who might have seemed nice enough to accept to go with her to the clinic.
I don't think that she took her new bf because she loved him or wants to have sex with him. She just didn't want to be alone.
If she was pregnant you were part of it. Now she's not, so you're not part of it anymore. Maybe you feel like you've lost something.
Maybe that abortion took something away from you...That explains your new feeling twoards what you use to like before this incident. But don't worry, it just takes a bit of time to get over something like this. Just don't force things to get back to what it used to be. Give yourself time to recover. Just think positive and go on with your life. It wasn't meant to be that's all.
Good luck
2006-06-30 23:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by Juice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she seems terrible... and you're sure you loved her??? yeah girls are evil let me tell ya and you're an awesome person...especially that thing with the abortion and you'd pay and support her decision if she wanted it. don't be upset by it, girls come and go... one day you'll find the right girl and it just so happens she wasn't the one. There's nothing you can do because she left you, but now you know what shes really like especially when she got a new boyfriend right away. And most likely you're not interested in relationships and sex because you're heart broken but when you find the right girl you'll know its her and you'll forget about the whole mess with your ex
check ya later sweetheart ♥
2006-07-01 00:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ The One You Love To Hate♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try and forget her. You seem like a really nice guy. I bet your still young, let time do its thing and im sure a lovely girl will come along, with much more potential than your ex. It was only in April so it wasn't that long ago, I hope things will get better for you.
Good luck!
2006-06-30 23:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she dosent deserve ur love or ur pity hun... u have to stop blaming urself for her problems...it takes two and she dosent want to meet u half way so pls dont lose sleep over her... shes a selfish insensative woman/girl by the sounds of her and u deserve a descent woman who will look after ur fragile heart.... is hard to forget some 1 u love or have loved....is even harder to move on....but u can do it and u will....is big bad world out there and is all waiting for a nice guy like u to show himself....ur not alone u know...heeps guys r going thru this every day....so cheer up hun and hold ur head high...least u can, unlike her, hold ur head high and get a real relationship happening...go forth young man...lol...and make me proud! tc hun... : )
2006-06-30 23:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by angel_of_ur_heart35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, basically keep yourself busy, go to work, the gym, any thing that keeps your mind occupied. do not sit at home listening to those sad sappy love song, find you a happy song. any song that makes you smile and wanna dance. Well thats how I did it. hope it works for you.
2006-06-30 23:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by Tevida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get over her,shes with another guy,u need to get out and meet other people get over her
2006-06-30 23:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a very nice guy indeed and hav juss done a mistake
leave her. she is not for such a nice guy like u!!!
so just chill
2006-06-30 23:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋