why do men hurt us then return when he realize that its you whom he really loves and cherish?
2006-06-30 23:26:53 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
(I am not sure if you are referring to him seeking other women or not....)
Women do this as well....Like many have already stated...once they find out the grass isn't greener on the other side..they come back.
But my sincere answer to you is..do not let him.
You have some decisions to make and I would not want to make them again..(these are only suggestions)
1. You con't to allow this behavior....(eventually it will bring you down..do not lose your self worth.)
2. Tell him, you will not accept this behavior anymore...of course there are consequences..
a. you or him moving out and starting over....indeed is difficult...Believe ME..you can do it.
b. There will be pain, you have to be strong and not give in to your love for him.
c. Counseling ...this helps sometimes..but he really has to want it to work before it will.
Perhaps from your intervention in what ever way you feel is best for you, maybe he will stay true to the one who loves him.
I know you love him..if this behavior is repetitious..then you are enabling him to do this and it will continue. He is bringing you down...hold your head up..you deserve better than that!!
2006-06-30 23:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pammie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do women do the same thing? Why Why Why? Relationships are so messed up because you usually have one or two people who really do not know what love is all about. I suggest reading about the subject if you really cannot figure it out. Common sense and common decency. Objectivism. I know. I was hurt. It has been a year and I am still yearning for that feeling again. It is the greatest feeling that a person can possibly feel. Some people just don't get it. Does he really realize that it is the one he loves and cherishes? Or is he just another *** who is insecure and has grown accustomes to the attention that he recieves or any other number of reasons that he returns. Women are the same way. This question doesn't just apply to men. But if someone hurts you on purpose then it is not right and you should try to find someone else unless you think it is forgivable or they realy do mean they are sorry. But beware. Sometimes they have other motives.
2006-06-30 23:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "hurt"?
Emotionally or physically?
If it's physical, there should be no coming back. There should be no 2nd chance.
Emotionally? Maybe a 2nd chance to prove they really love and cherish you. If they leave again, close the door for good.
Life's too short to keep repeating the same mistakes. You have to learn and move on.
2006-07-01 00:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men hurt women because they want control of a situation. Other times it is called abuse. When it is abuse it runs like a cycle. He will hurt you and then say he is sorry he won't do it again; and then next thing you know he is doing it all over again and it may even get worse to the point that you wind up in a hospital.
2006-07-01 00:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Christine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men always take the person they love for granted . they are always looking for the bigger and better deal. they are like children. they easily get tempted.when they see a hotter girl they run for them. without thinking they run after a hot sex. but they dont realize that a loving relationship is forever where else a one night stand is temporary.love, understanding, respect,these ideas are not apparent to men. they only think of sex. but after they lose a steady relationship they realise what a fool they have been. then they realize their mistake and comes back. they are stupid and pathetic. women on the otherhand are much more mature and would go for a steady relationship rather than a fling.
2006-06-30 23:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by atahsina 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every thing all comes down to value and self respect.
But above all: communication and understanding.
I believe that in every relationship women are able to see exactly how a man truly is, it’s her choice to either take it or leave it.
Most times I see women settling for less when they can just walk….
Usually, when u take a stand by walking away from an unhealthy relationship, u’ve taken a stand to respect and value yrself.
I guess most women remain in unhealthy relationships longer than they shld, and they end up been hurt.
2006-07-01 00:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by Deb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not every man does that. You must have come across a jerk. Don't let him bitter you for the rest of your life. I'm sorry you had such bad experience but keep looking. You'll find the one.
BTW, I hope you meant "hurt" emotionally. If he hurt you physically, you should report him to the police.
2006-07-02 20:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's usually not the case at all. They only return when they find out there not as good as they think they are, and get turned down by all the other females they hit on and then think I shouldn't have left her, I cant get anyone else I'll go crawling back. So if your man dose this tell him to get F*#ked. there's plenty more fish in the sea, like me ;)
2006-06-30 23:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the same reason that woman tend to hurt men and then return to them when they realize they cannot live without them. It is universal my friend
2006-06-30 23:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by dark and beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the females email me and ask me to spank them because they happen to be bad little girls. Other like me to us bull whip on them. You know females are some kinky people. The other day a woman wanted me to rape her, can you really beleave that. But I told the all to dress up like school girls. But then again some females want me to tie them up and hang them in mid air. So the reason men hurt women is because they are into bdsm and love it. hahahahahahahahaha
2006-06-30 23:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋