What you think about the join family life?

Question

In some Asian Country people being in a join family, from grand father to grand son they all are living in one place under one leadership they are living in together for a long period with having any problem But in west its totally different story. So those who are living in this join family please tell how it is possible, And those who are not in this join family live tell how it is not possible.

I will appreciate all other answers

Answer 1

i love joint family. my husband has 7 brothers. two of them live out side the country. we those who r living in the same city live together. ours is a big house with many servants & a cook. it is very convenient. if i have to go out i don't have to worry about my kids as they will be looked after by their aunts. ofcourse we need to adjust a lot but it is worth.it all the kids have the habit of caring for each other, obeying their elders , sharing their toys. they don't have to search for playmates. we have a cricket team at home.everyday is a feast (it will be somebody's b day or anniversary or promotion, or passing some exams etc. ) i love this life.i am happy that my hubby has so many brothers & sisters. sisters are married. when they visit us it is another feast for the family.my parents in law spend their time praying & playing with their grandkids.they are pampered by all of us.

Answer 2

America did have that kind of extended-family situation when families lived on farms.
Like the "Waltons" each family member was valued & everyone that could help out did their part, for the good of the family.

Somewhere down the line, our culture changed.
The emphasis became centered on the individual.
Society began making fun of grown sons & daughters still living at home with their parents. Sons & daughters had to "go out on their own" to prove that they were independent & "grown up."
Maybe it is hubris, thinking we can do everything on our own, but for many this it what appears to work in the West.

But now it seems that society may be changing again. The group of people called the "Sandwich Generation" are middle-aged people who are taking care of their own parents & their children. Three generations living together. Sounds familiar, doesn't it? Out of necessity & changing values, the emphasis is starting to turn to taking care of the extended family again.

Answer 3

This is called the extended family living situation. It's not easy but it can work very well. The problem here is we have lost all respect for our elders. They are fine when we "need" them but until then they should stay in their little corners. I took care of an elderly family member from the time I was married for 6 months until he passed away 12 years later. It taught my son to be compassionate.

Answer 4

It is possible because basically the members are not selfish, they develop lot of affinity, attachment, affection towards the entire members of the family. Children do give respect to all elders irrespective of their parents. The head of the family ls a great leader and allocate work/responsibility depending on the strengths and weakness of the members.

Answer 5

First of all it is not join family but joint family , thisconcept is very popular in asian countries. it is a fantastic arrangement where works are devided among the family members and they try hard to grow together untill a vamp comes in their life,desguiesed as some of the family member's wife.

Answer 6

I was raised that way, and am caucasian. The older boys brought the wives home until they were well off and the sister went to live with her husband. The first grandchildren were born at our parents home also.
Grandmother lived with my parents for 22 years. I left home to be married.
There are always bumps in the road for many generations living in the same house, but we always had someone to talk to and we always stuck together. I had a wonderful childhood.

I notice quite a few young adults coming home to live with their parents now, but it's just due to the American economy.

Answer 7

i'v seen joint families in Asia and all I have to say is that if the the members of the family are generally good then it depends on family income. If they are rich, life is great if poor it is hell. Rich people have no worries of land and money and they usually have large houses, for poor people its different. There are a lot of fights regarding family property stuff and its hard to coop with so many people in a small house.

Answer 8

I think this is how you are raised, if you are raised with extended family living with you then that is the norm for you if you are raised without that then it would be really hard for you. I know a lot of Spanish families that live with extended family and it works out well for them if the young woman work they have grandparents babysit for them (It takes a village to raise a child)

I think in America we are raised that you live with your parents until you are an adult and then you move and start your own family and you raise your children.

Which is better? Who knows I personally would not like to live with my parents and grandparents, I am to independent. but I guess it is what ever works well for you.

Answer 9

It comes down to Values and Respect for Elders.
Eastern Cultures understand and value the lessons learned from family members.

The Western World is more about making it on your own and learning from your own mistakes instead of listening to advice from others.

Answer 10

I would love it as long as everyone had common courtesy and respect for one another. It would give people a better sense of family. Besides, my mother is a fabulous cook!