we now share joint legal and physical custody. I am trying toget it changed because he is very controlling, has anger problems and is on several antidepressents. will i have a problem with him possibily winning. thanks
2006-06-30 22:28:53 · 5 answers · asked by saturngirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry we were married for 25 years and have only been divorced for a year. not divorced for 25years..typo
2006-06-30 22:41:06 · update #1
If he's been your ex for 25 years how can there be a custody case? Your kids should all be grown up now. However, since the time lapsed sounds great, he would only win if there has been a significant change from his circumstances when you split. For instance, he was incarcerated at the time or was incapable of working or abused the children but now has been treated. Otherwise, you should be OK, but DO NOT handle this without a lawyer.
2006-06-30 22:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by smartsassysabrina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. You will have to show the judge that your ex is completely uncapable of providing a safe and healthy environment for your children. Antidepressant and anger issues (unless there has been documented cases with the police ect...) are not enough on their own. Talk to your lawyer, they will be able to give you a better idea what your court system is like and a better idea what the possibilities are. Be prepared for all of your "dirty laundry" to come out and even some you don't think of as "dirty laundry" Whatever you do DO NOT bad mouth yur ex in front of the children. This could cause them to innocently complain about it to your ex which they will inevitablly bring up in court. And if they bring something up about your ex bad mouthing you just say well I'm sorry he/she feels that way but what is important is that I or we both love you and want the best for you. But keep mental notes to write down later and give those notes to your attorney.
2006-07-01 05:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by CysRoost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless it's proved he's a danger to the kids or their welfare, you probably won't be successful. What you claim will have to be backed up with more than your word because your own feelings against him will be suspect. If there's no documented instances affecting the kids welfare, I don't see why a court would choose to change the current arrangement. Joint custody seems to be the norm nowadays.
Ps...I didn't think you were fighting for custody of kids that would be over 25 years old :)
2006-07-01 05:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it to yourself, who knows you may be a *****?
words are words and flow like the dioreah from many an ***, probly more easier and pleasant to give out too.
not to put you down luv, but i wonder what his side of the story is?
stigmata with all your horrid sights
stigmata with its blissfull delights.
2006-07-01 05:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by shitshithefanow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I VOTE U WILL BE IN CONTROL, IF HE GETS YOUR CHILD, THERE WILL B MORE PROBLEMS....WHEN HE IS THERE......TAPE HIM.....HIS ANGER...U WILL WIN...........NORMALLY THE MOTHER GETS THE CHILDREN.TRUST THAT U WILL WIN....
2006-07-01 05:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by BUD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋