i am very much in love with my ex boyfriend. we broke up because he wanted to. i don't want sex, but he does, and that's one of the things we didn't agree with. i'm still very much in love with him, and i really want him back. we had no communication whatsoever, since we broke up, but i still want him to know things about me, and the things that i do. i had been thinking, perhaps, it might make him come back to me. what shall i do?
2006-06-30 21:25:25 · 16 answers · asked by Inquirer 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
i don't want sex because there are lots of risks involved, besides, i am not yet ready for that one. there's no physical or physiological reason. i just don't think i like it.
2006-06-30 23:13:40 · update #1
oh man, i felt just like you when my last bf broke up w/ me, but later i realized that i was just mainly mad that he had broken up w/ me instead of me breaking up w/ him... so, like the other person said, i realized that i was afraid of being alone while at the same time i wanted to show off to him how much he was missing out on by not being w/ me... i eventually realized how lame, ugly and boring he actually was...
i once went to a party of a friend of both of usand i knew he was going to be there, so i went there w/ my girl friends dressed all "sexy" to show him i could still have fun after the break up and show him what he had missed, well, turns out the party was dull and so was my ex and my gf's, so i started talking to this old classmate that i met once again at the party and guess what? we started talking again [the classmate, not my ex] and he's now my bf of 1 and a half yrs
so moral of the story:
dump the jerk
and don't ever ever ever think of using sex for getting a man/boy/guy, he doesn't deserve it. sex is for you to enjoy w/ someone special, and not to be used for manipulation or other purposes 'cause you might end up regretting it, or even worse he might just get sex and still end up going away
if you really wanna be involved in his life and you want him in yours, offer to be friends, if he doesn't even want to have a relationship like that, then maybe he was just using you
but from what you said, it sounds like he doesn't deserve you
try to go have some fun w/ your friends and go meet some new people
=)
2006-06-30 21:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 20:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Errol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If having sex is one of the things you don't agree on that implies there are other things too. You could try and get him back by offering sex and upset yourself - but that itself would only solve one part of your problem - what about the others?
I don't mean to sound pessimistic, but if there is no communication at all from him, then it sounds like it is well and truly over. Though my ex and I got back in touch and together after 2 years once. But I had no problem with the sex - it's probably pretty important for your ex too, and for any other man you meet in the future.
Why don't you address the not wanting sex part - does it hurt? Is it just boring? Are there psychological or physical reasons? A blanket sex ban is not a good start for meeting someone else, and I suspect that this is the only way for you to get over your ex. Your love has to have somewhere to go - it just needs somewhere else.
2006-06-30 21:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by cobra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess this is not a real answer. its more advice. if your ex-boyfriend really loves you then he will understand that you are not ready and will wait til you are. since that is not the case, then how do you know that you and him are meant to be with each other. I'm sure that you can find someone with better morals and values who will love you with or without sex. i am happy that you wont just give into him and have sex just to get him back. you should try to move on. if sex is so important to this guy then he most likely has already had sex with someone else when you guys broke up. i don't know how valid my credentials are, but i am a guy who doesn't just want sex (I'm abstinent) but i know plenty who do and none of then waited for the girl to be ready. it was either put out or get out for them. so in conclusion you are better off with finding another man that will truly love you and not try to pressure you .
2006-06-30 22:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by ipeemountiandew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he ain't into you - forget it, and I mean forget it. If there are feelings there for you he will return, but I wouldn't set myself up for a guy who is going to leave and break my heart. You WILL get over this guy. The Most important thing you need to concentrate on right now, is that you deserve to be treated very very good. You're happiness is the most important thing. Take a look at you're past experiences. Are you making the right decisions. If you're not, you're going to have a very sad life ahead of you. There are no room for bad decisions. Not even ONE bad decision. You wont be young forever, even though you think you will. I'm 63 and I made way too many mistakes. People remember your mistakes and remind you of them. If they don't you do anyway. Build your self esteem, don't tear it down.
2006-06-30 21:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of him first off.Show him your in his corner and have his back no matter what!!
Be his friend!!!I mean a real friend that no matter what,your there for him.He may not take notice to it right away but he'll eventually see it.
Most of us guys don't think with our brains until much later on but if you stick by him,he'll see that your real about him.
2006-06-30 21:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it; how come you love him so much but you don't like the sex? I thought the two went hand in hand? Anyhows, look, sex is your greatest weapon. Sure it's a little like shooting fish in a barrel- that is it's using an unfair weapon against him and one that he can't resist, but it is the strongest weapon. Dress up nice, act like a woman does- which will be easy as you are one- and he's putty. I shouldn't tell you things like this.
2006-06-30 21:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by smile4763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him how you feel, but if that's why he broke up with you, then let him go. Even if you do have sex with him, that's no guarantee that you will stay together, and you will have done something you really didn't want to do.
2006-06-30 21:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him out of your mind...he's only after you for sex...you are not worth more than sex....do you still need these type of guy ?? he don't love you but only want to have sex with you....if you offer sex to him, he will come back to taste it and dump you after that...it's best that you look for someone better...
2006-06-30 21:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by jims_bong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he broke up with you just cause you wouldnt have sex then he doesn't love you so just try to become friends and i know how you feel i've been there you just have to move on.If he really loved you he would be willing to wait.
2006-06-30 21:33:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋