We have already talked and joked around about the prospects of something happening like oral, j/o or possibly more. I am very nervous and almost scared....what role to I play and what can I expect from a gay man...??? I am a Str8 guy but a little curious and have never been with a man....help me out here on what to expect and what to do. How does one give a ******* anyway...that is if i decide to do it and act out on my fantasies??? HELLLPPP
2006-06-30 21:20:17 · 18 answers · asked by counterintel1234 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ask yourself...do you really want to sleep with a GUY and if so play it safe...don't let yourself get caught up in the heat of passion...safe sex is best...you have all the time in the world to make out with men...take one step at a time and make sure you enjoy it. Just relax and if it feels right run with it and if you don't like it, just say NO and stop and there is no need to feel guilty, either way be careful and have a GREAT time!!!
2006-06-30 22:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by joy ride 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing: RELAX! This evening is suppose to be fun. Allow yourself the opportunity to explore your burgeoning sexuality, and be sure to ask him to give you the room you need to do this.
Second thing: Play safely! Always use a condom. HINT: If your fantasy is to perform fellatio, then use a condom and apply a flavored lube to the condom. It makes the latex taste more palatable. (Note: Other industrialized countries, such as the UK, have removed oral sex as a high risk sexual activity. The CDC here has yet to do that...so it's best to play safe in the oral area as well.)
Be aware of you own comfort level and let your partner know when it's been reached. If he's a good "teacher", you won't have to let him know this. This should be an instinctual thing, especially since this is not new to him. Be aware nevertheless.
Good luck!
Have LOTS OF FUN!
And ALWAYS --->> PLAY SAFELY.
2006-07-01 04:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by Specious λ Neurotica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know that you can do as much or as little with this guy as you want - nothing if needs be. He's fully aware that you are curious? Then he'll be able to tell you what he likes and you can decide whether to go ahead and do it.
I don't think I'll go into details about HOW to do things - there are minors here.
2006-07-01 07:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're curious you need to relax, and he should let you take the lead and his cue from you. Believe me that is the best approach. Don't fill your head of how you should act and all that. If you let him lead, you may regret it and have ill will toward him and that is not fair to him nor you. He should be aware that if at any moment you've become uncomfortable, he needs to stop. Make a safe word, so he knows you mean it.
2006-07-01 04:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by midnightdealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother, just try to relax and enjoy the moment. You are not under any obligation to do anything you don't want to do. If you desire for him to please you, then let him. If you want to return the favor, then do it. Don't let yourself feel pressured to do anything you may feel bad about later. It's your life and it's up to you to live it in a way you can be happy with. I am gay and really enjoy sex with another guy. If sex with another guy is alright with you, then go for it. It's the best thing in the world. Expect it to be fun and an exploration. Peace brother.
2006-07-01 04:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did this gay guy talk you into doing this??If not you need to be very careful...1 reason is you don't know what your walking into...2 make sure you have SAFE SEX,if you are going through with this...I really think your going to be surprise,when you see that porno movie...It's nothing pretty to look at...I think he is trying to set the mood for you...Again,BE VERY CAREFUL...REMEMBER,YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO THIS...
Clowmy
2006-07-01 04:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can just play the role that you feel comfortable in, jsut relax, and take things as they are handed, I'm not too sure what ******* is, but use your imagination, im sure yourve seen a pporn where it is being performed. just have fun and lwt your guard down. Good Luck & Have Fun .
P.S. Be Safe
2006-07-01 08:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by vidalliendo21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try it and this is comming from a gay man i mean if he performs oral sex on you and you like it then you can be on the down low about your sexuality but who knows ive it a try
2006-07-06 15:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by terrance m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want it to happen it will happen, remember a man knows what a man wants. Do it safe, and enjoy and maybe that closet door will stay open along with your mind
2006-07-01 22:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by keleising 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, I'm Bi and can personally say your in for a treat b/c there is no porn like gay porn!!! If your nervous, just tell him you want to take it slow, but make sure you have a "glove" with you just in case.
2006-07-01 14:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Smart.a$$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋