when is it a good time to have "the next level talk"?

Question

I like dis guy. we talk,txt everyday. He takes me out to lunch,dinner and vise versa. Something that a guy ive seen in da past has never done for me. I think he likes me but Im not sure what he wants. its not just about sex cause we've been intimate after two months of talking and he is still acting the same with me.you know calling and texting me. But sometimes i feel a distance with him but then again it could be me because ive been hurt so many times. and know that i have a great guy i'm afraid to lose that. let me know when is it a good time to talk about if our relationship is gonna go further than it is. and how?

Answer 1

now its the right time dear, go ahead and tell him that u feel about him. good luck!

Answer 2

a good time to have the next level talk is when your partner feels like their feelings are mutual! How long knowing the pesron also depends and that next level talk. What if the guy you like decides to not go through with this relationship you are having?
Then what do you do? You feel like a total ***!! Make sure before you reach the next level talk that he is not sending you mixed signals! A man or woman will do anything to get a person in bed and use them

Answer 3

I'd say the best time is when you guys just chillin out.Say watching a movie or just loungin.
That way everything is relaxed and it can be bought up and talked about in a relaxed vibe.Not a blow up the spot situation where someone feels uncomfortable.You know what i'm sayin?

Answer 4

I think that you provided a very importan, valuable piece of information (perhaps w/o it realizing it) you already suspect that it may be your own insecurities b/c you have been hurt so any times in the past. Unfortunaltey people are burned over and over agian can eventually recognize a pattern in the type of men they (we) choose or settle for. i a not in any way implying this is the case here, just pointing one factor out for you to consider. Do you continuously fall for men who are great in the beginning, then you find that when things seem perfect they start to distance themsleves? If that is not the kind of person he is and if he is a decent man who treats you good and you have never felt this way before and he does things for you that no other man ever has you could possibley have met the perfect man for you so you really want to slow down, thing through each act carefully before doing anything impulsivley that could jeopordize a lasting and loving relaionship.

If you have been trated poorly by men in the past, did you alllow it to continue for a long time before you ended the relationship or did he eventually end it? Did he cheat on you ? Physically, verbally, or emotioanlly abuse you. Was he one of those men who wanted out , but did not have the balls to end the reationship so he did every horrible thing he could thus forcing you to finally call it quits , to ease his guilty mind. If you have a history of beiing hurt and being treated like sh__T by meb you cared about, then you probably became accustomed to that threatment and at soe pint as off the wall as it sounds it felt"NORMAL OR FAMILAIR TO YOU" EVEN though yu were never really happy. Often our self esteem becomes so low after repeatedl ebing hurt by men, we lsoe our dignity and sense of self worth, we lose our own identity. Then we someone good does finally come along and htings are going so well, our world seems TOO PRFECT, somethig we are not used to and we do ot knwo how to handle it so we end up self sabatoging and ruinging what could have been a godd and healthy relaionshiop. Our insecurities surface at the the strangest times 'WHEN OUR LIFES ARE AT THEIR VERY BEST AND OUR NEW BOYFRIEND APPEARS TO BE THE ONE. HE TREAT US SO WELL, WE THINK "OH KNOW THIS MUST BE THE CALM BEFORE THE STOEM, THIS IS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, I HAEV EVER BEEN ABLE TO BE HAPPY LIKE THIS BEFORE SO IT IS BOUND TO END SOON, WE START TO IMAGINE THAT THEY ARE DISTANCING THEMSELVES (I AN EFFORT TO PROTECT OURSELF FROM YET AOTER PAINFUL NREAKUP AND THE AGONY, PAIN, ETC. SO WE DO SOETHIGN TO SCREW IT UP FIRST..

Now I may be way off base here, but in any event you said that you had dated for a few month and it is not just about sex. I as the female would not initiate "THE TALK" AFTER DATING SOMEONE FOR ONLY THREE MONTHS: Unless he eas giving off soe really strong indicators that he wanted soemthing more and something permanent etc. I would just enjoy myslef for q while longer if I were you> Have fu right now, you deserve it after all the bad relations you spoke of.et the feelings grow sronger, the bond deeper, over more time. Let him fall in love with you and realize he can;t be w/o you. Of course you can always drop subtle hints (AND I DO MEAN SUBTLE, VERY VERY SUBTLE), suggest a wek long romatic vaction this summer or even early fall, one day midway into the trip when you are both having the time of your life and have tuned out the world at home, you could just make a cute coment For example when walking back from gettign the two of you a tropical drink at the pool tiki bar, appear surprised upo your return, whe ask you what is up just sya " that os liek the 5th person who has asked em how long we have been maried or that has said they can definatly telll we are on our honeymoon: just see what his reaction is, say "are you getting thsoe weird questions also?" if he looks at you like Glenn Close from Ftal attration then you know Long term is nt on his mind, but if he says " that is cute, I do sort of feel like we are honeymooning, then you ahve opened the door for some more "playful talk later o" I CAN'T REITERATE ENUOUH TAKE IT SLOW, LET IT HAPPE AND LET HIM COME TO THE CONCLUSION.

Little trips together are the best indicators of a future together, my husband and I pretended to be married on every exotic trip we took long before we married. It becomes second nauture referring to each other as husband and wife(asuuming yu are intersted in the cinderella strory. Give it time, you don't want to scare him. You also cannot give him all the time in the world either, or he will take advantage of it. I think ayear of dating exclusively, a monogamous rellationship you oth profess to love one another and want kids, have same values, backgrond, charschter etc, it a . It iis s double edged sword but i am one to put my cards oon the table, but you have to develop a hel=alth , long eough base, core first

Answer 5

Honey, if you can't be honest with him about what you want, how are your going to get it? Diplomatic, of course, but honest. Tell him what you want to clarify, rather than just telling him what you want. It doesn't sound like you are all that clear on what you want, anyway. But tell him you want to discuss your needs and desires and goals and values, and see how they compare with his.