I got asked out by a married man. I said no. In all honesty I really, really wanted to go out with him. I still do. I can't stop thinking about him. Is it horrible that I can't control my thoughts? I don't consider myself one of those type of women but geez I'm constantly think about this guy...
2006-06-30 21:00:29 · 22 answers · asked by La_Belle_LadyR99 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, no I will not ever say yes, I am not a homewrecker and never would be. I specifically asked about not being able to control my thoughts... It's dificult for me to stop thinking about him, but that's a far cry from accepting the offer...
2006-06-30 21:40:26 · update #1
No, it's not horrible. You said no. You can't help how you feel, just how you react to those feelings. You did good by saying no. Just try not to change your mind. A married guy has NOTHING to offer you, and you deserve the very best. Your worth it!
2006-06-30 21:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Miss NancyGirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is up with these chicks and married men. I'm going to start putting on my s h i t kickers, and start whoopin' some butt. YOU NEED TO GET YOUR OWN MAN, and leave married men alone.
Starting something with a married man, is being a HOMEWRECKER, not only that you'll always be second best. If you were first, he would have married YOU.
If you want to be labeled a whore, or a slut, then jump on the bandwagon and go out with him, if you want to have any remains of self respect left for yourself, then pass it up, and don't turn back.
2006-06-30 21:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by MissT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thoughts are understandable. What is horrible is that he asked you out. Be strong. You will regret it if you get involved with this man. He will hurt you, and he will hurt his wife. He will end up hurting his wife anyway, but do you really want to be a part of that?
Think of this, also. If he left his wife for you, which we both know hardly ever happens, unless she finds out about you and kicks him to the curb, would you ever trust him? You shouldn't, because he is a cheater. He is poison. Stay clear.
2006-06-30 21:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by percolated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats on his wife with you, he can also cheat on you! You're feelings about him will fade overtime. Just divert yourself, keep yourself busy, meet other people, do anything to get over him because he's not worth it. If you give in to him, it will be much harder to get over him and stop seeing him. Another thing is that dating someone who's married or who is already in a relationship, you won't have them COMPLETELY anyway. You'll have to share them with their spouses and/or their other girlfriends. And who wants to share? And that doesn't guarantee that he'll leave his wife for you. Wouldn't you want someone who you can have to YOURSELF instead of sharing them with someone else? What if the shoe was on the other foot? What if you were the wife and your husband was cheating on you behind your back? How would you feel? Anyway, date a married man and you're missing out on PLENTY of other relationship opportunities who are more worth your time!
2006-06-30 21:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are definately horrible, terrible marriage wrecker! Get the hell out of this dirty life stlye and find a decent single available man to go out with so that it will help you to stop thinking of that filthy married man. He is dirty because he only want to have "fun" with you for free, he is a cheap skate that can't afford to pay for "fun" so he strike at cheap skate like you where he doesn't need to pay a single penny so he can enjoy "fun".
2006-06-30 21:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to think about him, or even fantasize privately about him, but do Not act on your thoughts. He's married. Bad news. Please do not get involved with a married man, you will only be hurt, over and over, by him. He's a jerk for asking you out. Nothing wrong with thoughts of him. But do not act on it. You need to move on, forget him. There's plenty more men out there. Good luck.
2006-06-30 21:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you ever heard these words..."You sow what you reap"?
Make sure you're ready to pay the price before you step into something like that. I think everyone will agree with me when I say this...NO MAN is hot enough to pay that steep a price!
2006-06-30 21:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with, him , life is too short to wonder what if , u never know it may be the love of ur life, he was just doing something else till u came along, and if hes looking outside the marrige it most likely because she not keeping him happy, or just have sex , keep it simple, no strings,
2006-07-01 02:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously u like this guy n his thots r reigning ur mind.. but hes a married man.. ur refusal was apt n intelligent.. time will heal d wound.. his thots will dominate ur mind 4 a couple of days, but still, u wll definitely get over him.. doesnt evrybody?? think abt d time wen u really cudnt get wot u wantd.. like wen u wer small.. u wantd a toy or a doll, but ur parents didnt giv it 2 u.. u did feel bad abt it.. n u certainly kept thinkin abt it.. but u did move on dint u??
2006-06-30 21:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by versatilefrost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about his wife and how you would feel if it was you that was being cheated on. I doubt you are the first one he's tried to be with. If he did leave his wife, could you ever trust him? Once a cheat always a cheat.
2006-06-30 21:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by gentlesoul_63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋