i've been trying to get pregnant for a year and its not working.ovu tests r fine, whats wrong then? help?

Question

we've been timing intercourses and my doctor says i'm healthy but it's all negative pregnancy tests all the time.i'm desperate

Answer 1

I tried to get pregnant for 5 years. We started out fine, just going with the flow. No luck. Then began going to the doctor for fertility treatments. I had my tubes blown, and an endometreosis surgery. No luck. 3 invetro procedures. No luck. We were both check out to be just fine. The doctor even stated he'd be surprised if I wasn't pregnant within the year. No such luck. I even slept with baby booties under my pillow for a year, as I heard this old wives tale would help. I tried anything and everything, much to no avail.

Everyone kept telling me not to think about it, which was very difficult to do with other family members parading their pregnancies and children around. Actually, the first two years, we hardly thought about it at all and weren't worried. I didn't think I worried about it that much, until I think back on it now. I'd cry at every period. All the tension from this caused a rif in our marriage. He decided he didn't want to adopt, even though we agreed that would be the option for us if we were unable to have our own. He became mad at God, mad at me, etc. It ended in divorce.

I dated again and met a man, and had his baby almost 2 years later. We weren't even really trying-yes but not really. I was calm and cool and never pushed the issue. Everyone jokes that it obviously wasn't me that had the problem. I think it just wasn't meant to be.

The one thing I did differently with my first husband was we had sex only when we were supposed to. Ovulation time, just like the doctor ordered. It became a mission and a chore. With my new man, we did it plenty, just about every day, sometimes a couple times a day-just to do. We made it fun, and didn't concentrate on trying to concieve by making it a job and a chore.

I do believe that constantly thinking about it caused worry deep down inside. As hard as it is, try to keep it off your mind. Maybe redecorate, move or build a new house. Maybe a great vacation will do the trick.

I feel for you, and wish you and yours the best of luck! God Bless

Answer 2

Don't get desperate dear !! We've been TCC for over a year now, with no result. i've done all tests and all show that i'm healthy. Perhaps you're not timing ovulation well. Every month, my body tries to get pregnant and if something holds it...i have all the symptoms and then the period come...
Why don't you try some tests on your husband too ?
Relax and pray... Good luck.

Answer 3

Meg, to get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 5 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 4

go to http://www.mymonthlycycles.com and put in your period info and it will calculate when you will be fertile and ovulating.

*Take folic acid
*After sex hold your legs up for 10 minutes so the sperm won't come out
*Relax


I was just like this i wanted a baby so badly and every month when i would start my period i would be feeling like a failure but then i just stopped thinking about it and that is when it happened.
It took me a year to get pregnant....

I know a wonderful doctor that can help
Dr. Richard Levin
http://www.babies-by-levin.com

Good luck and god bless

Answer 5

has he been tested? it could be him, and not you.

And, as I'm sure your doc has told you, sometimes these things take awhile. And stressing over it doesn't help. Get your guy checked, maybe it's him. If not, then just keep trying, and try not to worry too much about it. It'll happen in due course.

Answer 6

Trust me on this.... quit trying and it will happen. I wanted a baby so bad for so long and never got pregnant. Then when I gave up and figured it wouldn't happen.... it happened.... and then again six months after the first was born.

Answer 7

I'm assuming you've already had your partners sperm count done if you have been to a doctor?

Visit www.fertilityfriend.com for further advice and tips.

Good luck

Answer 8

Suggest to have a sperm count done as well before taking further action.

Answer 9

Hubby should be tested. Beyond that, relax and just be natural. It's a better chance that way.

Answer 10

when you want to concieve, take a pillow and place it below your hips , elevating your buttocks. after ejaculation stay in this position for ten minutes. This is guaranteed.