What's my disorder? What can I do to change?

Question

I constanlty lie, manipulate and basically screw with everything and everyone in my life. It's not whether or not I get joy out of it but rather instinctual. I do it even when I don't have to. I cheat on my girlfriend, lie to friends and strangers and I suppose myself because I constantly justify my perceivably "wrong" actions as right. Am I just a normal male? It is hard for me to decide anything ethical because my boundaries are all over the place. I also have a ill conceived, masked contempt for everyone and everything. Basically I am full of hate-but that feelinf is persistent in my thoughts right up to the point of interaction. After interacting I feel positive about people, but only up to that point. Is this normal? Also, I think about having relations with almost everybody-even those not so attractive-it's like I want to do it for the sake of doing so. I would really appreciate some input here!

Answer 1

I suggest you see a competent psychologist and spend some time working through these issues - having a bunch of Yahoo! Answer hacks playing armchair shrinks (and telling you asinine things like "pray and it will get better") isn't going to help. The problems you listed are serious, and it is a very positive sign that you have the awareness - it will do you good in therapy. good luck.

Answer 2

Well you are definately anything but normal. There is a condition where you do lie constantly but I cannot remember the term for it. Either way I see two forms of treatment for you to over come this problem.
1) Theropy, a good psychologist and many sessions may be able to turn you around
2) Someone to beat the living snot out of you every time you lie and then it will sink in,
"Hey maybe I should tell the truth from now on"

Either way would work I think the secon way would start working after the very first good beating...
You could join the military for that. Lie to them and they will give that beating that you need to straighten out.

Answer 3

Well, you are obviously smart enough to recognize that what you are describing is not normal behavior. It is not making you feel particualrly good, nor anyone else. Yes, you should get some help to deal with whatever your issues are - - but for a simple start, try this.. If you do good things, you will feel good.. - if you have trouble knowing right from wrong, use the old golden rule.. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.. - its pretty basic stuff.. but get some professional help for the more difficult issues in your life.. I am sure you are both smart and curious, two wonderful qualities. Use them well and you will have a wonderful life - it's up to you..

Answer 4

It is difficult from your post to understand the heart of your problem.
If your refering to cheating primarily- It is normal for men to be tempted by many women.. that's genertic.
Acting on it however is a a choice.. I choice to break a bond you have agreed to.

You say you are filled with hate and instintually manipulate people.. but if this was instinctual you would feel no compulsion to want to change yourself.
So, if you are serious about changing yourself then you need to stop making excuses for yourself that you do not have "control"- and need to admit that you have power to choose to do good and evil in every act that you do.

Basically the heart of all evil is selfishness to an extreme..
The world is a selfish and cold place, and often kids are raised in society to lack empathy. So if you really want to change yourself you need to develop your ability to empathize with others and understand the effect of your actions on their feelings and lives

Answer 5

What are you getting from what you're doing? Think about that, then go for one day without doing it. You can do it. See what happens. You're doing it because you can! You don't feel very good about yourself. Excersice what does make you feel good about yourself. Get away from your regular surroundings and the people you know to do this. Go on a weekend trip. Try doing what you know is best. It will change part of your life. Don't expect all things to change right away. Give yourself some credit for even thinking about improving yourself. You're not so bad.

Answer 6

not trying to get into ur personal life,but are u maby taking out all this aggression out on people bucause of a past problem?,or maby u r just a angry person?I think you are probally a normal person, but it sounds like u just really unhappy with one or many things in your life and you deal with it ways to make other people in a way feel some sort of mental pain as well. I would say to you to breath,and think about whats really brothing you,think if its a major issue maby you should see professional help, or if its stress take a vacation.The biggest step is to comunicate,and you have by writing this. also i deal with stress by working out,not sure if you do but it works. I hope you find some good anwsers! good luck bud!

Answer 7

mm- do you have any friends? They wouldn't hang around someone who was as bad as you sound.
Everyone has some good in them, and I think you need to think about what makes you a likeable person.
Most really nasty people have no insight into their actions, and the fact that you have recognised a lot of basic human failings in yourself tells me that you are not so bad.
Your sexual drive is the most worrying thing you have talked about- maybe you need to see a counsellor about your sex drive- because cheating on your girlfriend is not good (but quite common), but wanting to have sex with everyone is a bit worrying.
Seek help and advice on this one- you could be doing lots of people a favour on this one.
Good luck and well done for your honesty.

Answer 8

Reactive Attachment Disorder.

Answer 9

Well basically you admitting that there is something wrong is your first step. If I were you I would get counseling to see if there is a deeper problem, one that you may not know about. But your on a good start so just keep pushing yourself to change. Good luck.

Answer 10

Contact Dr. Phil