I have this friend that is like been my friend forever and she doesnt like my boyfriends sister becuz me and his sister get along i still talk to my best friend and everything but she keeps calling my boyfriends sister a whore i dont know why she said it was becuz she called her that but I dont think that is why.... Should i stop talking to them or what i dont know but this is hurting me and my bfs relationship and i dont want this to happen anymore can someone help me please??
2006-06-30 19:42:47 · 8 answers · asked by Brittany 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She's probably jealous......Think it : you were together-only, and now, not only you have found a boyfriend, but you also spend time talking and hanging on with his sister. She's afraid that she is going to loose you..And it's ABSOLUTELY normal...
Talk to her and (if this is what you feel) explain to her that she still is your best-best-friend and that no one could replace her to your life.... But tel her also that you love ur bf and you want to get on well with his sister just because it's HIS sister, and not because you want her to be your best friend... Good luck!
2006-06-30 19:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by smaragda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know what? You're at an age where best friends, like you, change. A lot. And that nice person you grew up with can suddenly become some nasty so-and-so and you think, where the heck did that come from? If you are happy with bf and his sister, give this girl space. She needs to know (and you too) that people can't dance to anyone else's tune but their own. She may have ideas about your bf's sister (and to me it sounds like envy), but she doesn't know her. You do. Think about this: why is she calling bf's sister a whore? Probably because sister talks with you.
Give the girl space, be yourself, and if she calms down let her back, but right now, leave her be. There's a saying I learned years ago for situations like this and it goes: With friends like this, I don't need enemies.
2006-07-01 02:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister, who is my total best friend in the world, got really mad when I became close with my new cousin (through her dad marrying our aunt). She would stay in her room all the time if Jordan (our cousin) was with us. Once they became friends though, we would just all hang out. They both made my trips to Santa Fe and Maine the best vacations I have ever been on.
I'd introduce them to each other. Your friends are probably more alike than it seems, because you have the qualities that you look for in a friend. Reassure your best friend that she is your best friend. hang out with her seperately some times. But if they don't get along then just keep them separate and insure that your bf knows that she is your bf and that she doesn't need to be jealous of this other girl.
I've been on the other side as well. When my best friend Emma whom I'd known since kindergarten became friends with Kate, I was a bit jealous, because it had always been she and I. But Kate and I became best friends and were a little group that was considered the closest in my elementary for three years. Our teacher even nicknamed us. And now that Emma has moved three thousand miles away (grrr!), I'm really glad that I have Kate.
2006-07-01 02:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by millancad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that you dont want to hear her say that anymore and if she has a problem with the girl to go talk to her and if she says it again after you have told her not to shes not your friend anyway and you need to always be too busy when she wants to hang out or she calls,sooner or later she will get the message from you giving her the cold shoulder.your boyfriend is more impotant .
2006-07-01 02:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is over possesive, does she have anyother friend except you...if not then there is your reson she thinks that you are giving them more prefference then her. Try to tell her that you would have friends but she is special...and as for using abuses..tell her that you love her but if she continues with the abuse you would lose the love and affection that you have for her.
Tell her you give respect, you earn respect
2006-07-01 02:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sabrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what you should do is getting the both girls together somewhere and help them sort their differences and they should be getting along
2006-07-01 07:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by Smiley17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's jealous.... you shouldn't stop other friendships. if you start now then you will always be catering to her. remember, if she was your true friend, then it wouldn't matter to her how many other friends you have. Good luck.
2006-07-01 02:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's jealous, honey. Ignore it- just get on with your boyfriend and ignore her comments- she's trying to hurt you but if you ignore it it won't work
2006-07-01 02:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by loobyloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋