im sixteen and ive been with my boyfriend for a few months now, but i cant see him outside of school because my mom forbids it. help!
2006-06-30 19:38:41 · 12 answers · asked by tony's girl 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
because they love you
2006-06-30 19:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by hotlilpimp64 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its your mother's rules. She's trying her best to get you to 18 without a baby. My children (girls and boy) will not date till 16, and older than that if I don't feel they are trustworthy. You don't like it, but even at 16 this is still your childhood. She's just trying to raise you the best she can. Being alone with a guy can lead to all sorts of possibilities, alot of them bad. So she'ld rather be strict than have you tell her she's about to be a granny. Two more years and you can move out and make your own rules. Until then, its her right to protect you how she sees fit.
2006-07-01 04:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents deal with things the best way they know how. Remember this is the first time they've had to deal with this issue, even if you have older brothers or sisters. Parents always fear the worst. Give your mom a "little" credit for worrying about you, a lot of parents don't.
Here are some options for you to present to her, showing your respect for her, and showing your maturity: Ask her if you can invite your boyfriend over for dinner with the family, even better can his family join you? She'll get to spend time with him, see what he's like. If his mother, father, family joins you she'll get to see that he comes from a good upstanding, respectful family.
Another suggestion is a group date...of course including friends of yours that she knows and trusts.
Lack of information can cause distrust. Provide her with proof, through interaction, to show that she has taught you well and that you have chosen a boy who respects and honors you.
Show through your actions that he is a boy who is respectful and trustworthy and good enough to date her daughter. Show her he is worthy of her daughter.
2006-07-01 04:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by iimurph99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have a hard time letting you date because they were once that age and know what can happen to two hormonal teens when they are not supervised. However some day she will have to start trusting that you can handle the pressure and make the right decisions.
2006-07-01 03:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most parents think 16 is a good age. Some wait a bit more and some allow earlier but for most I think it's 16. Maybe they don't like the guy you're with and want to stop you from dating him.
2006-07-01 02:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by millancad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom doesn't want something to happen to you. She definitely doesn't want you coming home pregnant either. Guys will pressure you to have sex or do more physical things. Well anyways to answer your question say your going out with friends to a movie theater, really do it. Do a double date with one of your friends if you can.
2006-07-01 02:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, one reason I dont date is just because of that, the parents. However, if you have the guts you really need to tell momma. Explain to her that, the guy you are dating is a wonderful, smart, and caring person.(if he really is).
2006-07-01 02:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by Diva E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
experience comes by age and facing of problems and difficulties in life by parents. parents know better about future on the basis of their experience and prediction. there is lot of difference in loving life and practical life. parents helps to children physically, emotionally and financially. only parents provide complete protection and security to teenage children. there is two way to live - first - to live easy life without facing any problems and difficulties and second - to face reality and see what is positive and negative. parents can distinguish what is worng and write. most important things is that there is insecure life of female child in the society and no one like to provide proper help because there is double standard of behaviour. the main aim and theme is for student to study properly and achieve the goal. there is certain norms and rules which have to be followed by the citizen to live peacefully. before 25 years of age is sin to meet and think about dating. the right age is when u can take decision what is right and wrong for you and your family, and society. if it is harming to any one it is not worth while. perhaps u must be thinking that no one can make happy to everyone. it is right but this is not logic to leave parents and society for one to whom u like. liberty and freedom does not mean to create problems for others. always respect to yr elders and educated persons who are more intelligent than you and parents alwasy think better for their children to give them bright future. love and dating is nothing just to make you restless and to waste your time. it will be better to learn more from your books which are written by very experience holder instead to spoil your life and career in dating. you will get nothing from dating and love. this is just attraction and by the time you will learn that this is not good for promissing children. what you see in the society and pictures is quite different from the real life. they do their business by making films/ pictures and earn money. like this you do something creative and make your life more secure and useful to live at all without harming to parents and others who love you more than your friend. good friend will never waste your time. this is good for you to listen your parents carefully. if you have any doubt, u can contact me at 01126349701, 9213173678, i am advocate.
2006-07-01 03:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by mohitsinghjadhav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be they still remember what it's like to be your age and they want to protect you from some of the problems they faced?
2006-07-01 02:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents are protective, they dont want their daughter to get hurt. My parents initially did that..now that they know that i can handle myself i know my limits and have my own set of rules..they have let me go...i love them for that..they protected me..now they have let me go to live my own life.....trust your parents and make them trust you...they would let you be yourself
2006-07-01 02:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Sabrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way i could help is if i talk to your mom, just wait another year and then yeah your old enough- i guess
2006-07-01 03:00:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋