my friend has canceld on me alot and she is always putting me down butshe has been my friend for several years my mom said to just get rid of her but its not as easy as it sounds. im so comfused.
2006-06-30 19:18:55 · 26 answers · asked by Ashlee B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
COMFUSED?
WOW.
Is that like Comfy and used put together?
2006-06-30 19:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by MissT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you afraid that if you brush her off you couldnt find onother very close friend? or feel wasted of the years youve been together? dont be girl. the time youve spent together doesnt count to the time of the good times youve shared in your friendship. Whats the use of keeping those years when it is actually showing you already how a self centered person she is? Friendship is a matter of love, trust, concern and respect. If one thing is missing there, try to cover it with onother one. But if all were missing, theres no point of continuing it. Time is so precious, dont deal it with something unworthy about, instead try to listen to your mom and meet new people, hang with some friends and communicate with them. You just dont know, a one very good friend is just there waiting for a good friend just like you. Cheer up ok? everything can work out. Goodluck!
2006-07-01 03:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by shih 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what that's like. but thanks to my boyfriend i got to see the truth, and not what i wanted to see. usually what happened to you is the result of bad judgment concerning people. i am almost sure that she/your so called friend/ is more popular than you, I'm not being rude just objective. and you probably hang around with her because you're a good person but with a too little self esteem. you are probably the one that helps her out with homework, "little" jokes and help her when she's just down. you are always there but she's almost never there for you. if I'm right i feel sorry for you, i know how it is, giving your best to someone that really doesn't deserve your help your friendship, because she's always pushed you aside when someone else is in the room, someone more interesting to her. understand that you will never be more than an obedient puppy to her. i guess it's hard for you but you've got to get real and move on, have trust in your self don't think that without her you are nothing because that's not true at all, you are a good person that needs to find new friends that will treat you right. a friendship is not when only one person does all the work and never gets anything back think about it what has she ever done for you?!? practically nothing. wake up and start living YOUR life, don't stand in her shadow.
2006-07-01 03:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by placintzica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your friend doesn't realize what she actually says or does to you. You have to have a talk with her and lay down exactly what is bothering you. Ask her if she really wants to be friends with you, or is she keeping you around to put you down, so that she can feel better about herself? If she cancels on you all the time, then it shows that she does not value your time or commitment as a friend. I think your mom is right on this one. Tell your friend that you are sick of being treated that way and if she thinks she is so much better than you, then she can just get out of your life. You have to show confidence, because if you don't, she will just feed on that and make you feel worse.
2006-07-01 02:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, if this is your true friend then you would not be feeling some kinda way. Obviously others around you who care for you sees the way this "sunshine"(a friend who is only bright when something is being received) friend is treating you. It is ok if you two have grown into different directions and may have developed your own thang in life. Let her know how you feel about the way she has been abusing your friendship and if you dont get the feedback you was looking for then at least you know you attempted to save whatever friendship left yall had. ---When a person shows you their TRUE selves, BELIEVE THEM - Maya Angelou
2006-07-01 02:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Callender 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is taking you for granted. She's so used to you being there for her that the friendship has gradually become one sided. Does she have new friends or a new boyfriend? She's acting like she doesn't need you. Do you need her or the friend she used to be? You have to train people to treat you how you would like to be treated. Give them a treat when they're good and throw them in the dog house when they're bad. Youth is so hard, in a few years this will all seem so small.
2006-07-01 02:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by Leah B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like she's much of a friend to want to hang on to if she keeps putting you down. She must make you feel pretty awful on a regular basis. You need to ask yourself why you have remained friends with her.....is it because it's an "old" friendship, and kinda comfortable? Are you insecure in your ability to have another long-time friendship?
Your mom is right, you need to let the friendship cool. If she misses you, let her come to you. My bet is that she won't....you need to get your head around it to just let this one slide right on by.
2006-07-01 02:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom might be right.And ending a relationship with a friend does hurt,probably you more than them if they are dissing you.Anyways try going to places on your own or with family members,keeps you busy and your mind occupied and who knows maybe you will find a new best friend:O)God bless
2006-07-01 09:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels she has to put you down then she is not a friend after all. In my experience, when someone is trying to put you down or make you feel bad about yourself is because they do not feel good about themselves. So if I were you I would ditch her.
2006-07-01 02:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i know how you feel! Go to her and talk it through and ask her if you have did something or is something wrong with her! B/c you are true friends then she should talk to u and just let her no that you are there for her! That is my opinion!!!
2006-07-01 02:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by giggles14_2010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your mom has i good point. but maybe if you try telling your friend how you feel when she cancels on you all the time. and then see if she still does it. and if she does maybe your moms right maybe she's not as good as a friend as you thought.and if you asking how do i no this well i went through it too
2006-07-01 02:27:17 · answer #11 · answered by skater_gurl019 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋