At school I'm very nice to all of the good looking girls, but they all seem to hate me, one girl I really like I have been trying to be friends with for two years and she never notices me and does not seem to like me, then there's a boy who got with the girl I like in less than a day, wat I'm saying is WHY ARE GIRLS SO DAMN COMPLEX.
2006-06-30 19:16:21 · 17 answers · asked by crazy_clayman912 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nice guys don't win and it's not that women like assholes either it's that they want a real man. Nice guys gets ***** whipped easily. When you're nice there is no spark. It's boring, no challenge. You probaly won't get into fights and etc because you're so nice and boring that you'll just let her win.
Some reasons
1. You are ugly.
2. You are trying really hard.
3. I had like 7 in my head but I forgot, oh well.
2006-06-30 19:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy tries so hard to be nice, for some girls it can come across as pehaps being fake, you want something. Also as you're only nice to good looking girls, they realise that you have some sort of ulterior motive.
If you are naturally a nice guy, then try and hold back a bit don't always offer to do something for someone especially if you don't get anything back in return. Be nice to everyone, not so good looking girls, all guys etc. When people see that you are genuinely a nice guy, then you'll get more attention from all girls.
Don't try to be friends with anyone, you're either friends or your not. Are you buying these girl's friendship? You see that puts you in a weaker position as the person who wants something. Provide a challenge for the girl also. Let her do some of the chasing.
Generally everyone wants to be around nice people - let people come to you, don't go chasing or begging for it.
And trust me this works both ways. Men don't respond well to very very nice women either!
2006-06-30 21:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by geekiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are complex because guys are too.
You're trying too hard it seems - especially if you're trying to be friends with someone for two years and they've been ignoring you. Know when to take the hint to get lost and give up.
Also - remember that nice isn't the only thing that attracts a girl to you. After all, you're only going after girls you consider good-looking - you don't even know if they're nice or not. They could all be stuck up and really witchy. Maybe you have the wrong hair color for someone you're interested in. Maybe someone else prefers guys with a different eye color than you.
So basically, if one girl isn't paying attention to you after a little bit, give up on her and try someone else. Eventually you'll find one that's interested in you as long as you're not being a pain in the butt or seeming to be desparate.
2006-06-30 19:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by kachina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, most of the time 'nice' just doesn't cut it. It's a suggestion but why not trying to exude confidence? It's alright if you don't feel confident, just act like you are and hopefully the feeling will follow. Also, this might be hard to do, but don't look like you are trying too hard to get them to notice you. There's this saying "the hungry do not get fed" if you know what I mean. If you can carry the attitude that those girls are the ones trying to impress you instead of you trying to impress the girls, then maybe you'll see some nice changes.
2006-07-01 08:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by newbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed that you said you're very nice to all of the GOOD- looking girls at school- but,what about the rest of the girls? Guys who seem GENUINELY nice, and confident ( kissing the tails of all of the hotties tends to make a guy seem desperate & inexperienced) tend to impress the ladies with relative ease- regardless of how good-looking they are (or aren't). P. S. Intelligent and/or talented guys who appear to be self-motivated also appear to be on the track to fame and/or fortune... So, you might want to consider the old saying, 'Flattery will get you no where'. I wish you the best of luck- you sound like a decent guy who's just been using a bad approach.
2006-06-30 19:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you for sure but them. However, there are two kinds of nice. One kind of nice is the kind that people with their own hobbies and interests show toward others by being appropriately helpful and/or interested in their business.
The other kind of nice is the needy-nice. Neither men or women like that in a partner because it isn't healthy; it's about the needy person wanting too much or giving too much -- both of which come across as selfishly meeting one's own needs. If you are too nice or trying too hard, they may think/feel this about you.
The best way to attract others is to take care of yourself, have some fun things you do with friends and family, have your own interests, and be genuinely interested in others without prying.
Good luck.
2006-06-30 19:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good guy, a good friend and a good person, but most importantly, be enough for yourself. Girls are weird, guys are weird, and there is no perfect answer. If you are confident about who you are, and comfortable with yourself, then the right person will be attracted to you. Concerning this particular girl, I would advise you to continue being friendly, certainly be a gentleman, and respect her. Chances are the 24hr boy will not be around forever, and if you show her how well she can be treated she may realize what she's been missing.
2006-06-30 19:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by paintergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the whole Women always want what they can't have. If you are too available its a real turn off. It's why they always want some one elses Husband / boyfriend rather that getting their own man.
Try being nice to all the Girls, not just the good looking ones. They probably feel as overlooked as you.
2006-06-30 19:41:15 · answer #8 · answered by 'Dr Greene' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got a case of badgirlitis. you're attracted to girls with an edge and keep getting rejected. thank goodness they do as getting with them would really mess up your head and you've managed to avoid a lot of heartache you lucky lad. try joining an activity group where you'll have more in common with the girls and it will help you to make friends with them first. we're not all so complex or fussy. keep trying. do something that will make girls interested in you..like martial arts..nothing more attractive than a guy that takes care of himself and can protect a girl. good luck x
2006-06-30 22:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be ur self. but dont try to hard she might not like u the same way so move on find a other girl to like......and remember being nice isnt that good,
2006-06-30 19:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by me me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋