We use to have sex daily. but now it's like 3 or 4 times a month, if i'm lucky. I am young, and very easy on the eyes, but he still doesn't not want to make love. I know that he loves me but he just doesn't want to do it. He doesn't have a stressful job or anything. I do what i know to please him, cooking cleaning sewing his cloths, I complement him, I give him gifts I spend lots of time with him, but still nothing. What in the hell can I do to put our sex life back on track? poll dance? Someone for gods sake please come up with something I want to get orgasms from him and not my vibrator.
2006-06-30 18:37:38 · 15 answers · asked by jhairumeee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
every long term relationship goes through ups and downs in the sex department, just like in everything else.
You need to tell him how your feeling. But be carefull not to make him feel bad about not giving you orgasms.. just ask him if there is something wrong.. or if he has any ideas for spicing up your love life. Who konws.. he may be thinking the same thing you are..
Good luck.. ive been there and back and there and back.. lol
2006-06-30 18:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by jill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...... its a big prob, the one thing i would like to tell u that u should try to get more closer by loving him, listen him and just try to increase more confidence and try to know what the prob is and why he is responding this way, it will take time and u have to do a lot of hard work for that too. I know you will get positive response but slowly.
Love is not only Sex and Sex is not only love.
Love includes so many things those are more than just sex, like they have strong emotions, sentiments and the connection from heart to soul.
every person has different mentality about sex, some wanna do twice n thrice daily, some wanna go for it daily, alternately and it goes down day by day as it depends again on mental preparations and body conditions.
i hope u r getting me and try and if u get success then plz do inform me.......
2006-07-01 02:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by funloving_india 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep! There is a difference between love and sex. Sometimes medications affect our desire for sex, sometimes stress shuts you down, or bad health. But if you love someone, you love them whether they can have sex or not. That's when too many relationships break down......When the sexual fires turn to coals.....the relation ship breaks down. Spouse's feelings are hurt, and they take the lack of their partner's desire for them the wrong way. That's where the ever important "communication" comes in. Keep those lines open. It is sooooo important. Good Luck....Grammaluvsu
2006-07-01 01:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is what you are worried about Sex then your side of the relationship is shallow.
My best friend has never had sex with her husband due to several abuses by men in the past. He has never had sex with any one else in their ten year marriage. Love is stronger than any thing else. Be patient talk to him. What would you do if say he had an accident in future and could never give you pleasure?
2006-07-01 01:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by rachelsquires007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very possible. I am the reverse of your situation. I love my boyfriend very much, but I just do not want to have sex as much as I used to. It's not that I find him unattractive or anything like that. I know my boyfriend is concerned. He has talked to me about it. It seems like the more he brings up why we don't do it as much; the longer we go without doing it. If he would just drop it and stop putting so much pressure on me I think things would go back to normal.
2006-07-01 01:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by k h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the problem is that you are too available to him. sometimes men want what they can't have. Sure you know he can have you cuz you love him but he doesn't have to know that. get dressed up and go out with your friends a couple of times. maybe that will make him curious and make him remember what he is missing. on the other hand it's usually a sign of infidelity. but you would know that in your soul. Sometimes sex toys make men feel inadequate. Masturbate in private.
2006-07-01 01:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by Wonikas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself 2 questions...
Is he faithful?
Is he straight?
If you said no, then yes it's possible for him to love you and not want sex....
If not, he might possibly think you don't want him, since you've already replaced him with a vibrator.
2006-07-01 01:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,it is possible. How old is he? Has he gained weight recently? Any bill stress?? family issues??? I do like the pole dance idea though!!! Peace.
2006-07-01 02:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by wildrover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Love is so far beyond sex. Sex is nothing more than a byproduct. If you are at that point you truly understand.
2006-07-01 01:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by driver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you are a woman but have a male avatar..maybe he has an affair
2006-07-01 01:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by onyxa girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋