I have a hard time being around people I don't know. i don't know what to say or basically anything. Tonight a co-worker and i went to this dance club and she had a great time. I tried to talk to people but I just froze. I am fime with co-workers, we can talk aobut work. But after that I am lost. I really want to make some friends and not just have accuatances.
2006-06-30 18:21:30 · 10 answers · asked by mmh917 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Pray about it.
2006-06-30 18:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kristi A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell by the way you wrote the question that you're trying too hard. Don't do that. Relax, relax, then relax some more. I know it might be easier said than done, but you need to relax.
Prepackaged conversations are just plain boring. You won't get to know folks if you're putting too much thought into a conversation starter.
So now we're back to the relaxing part. Relax. Now throw in a smile. Relax some more. Smile some more. The conversation will come to you.
Really, it's that easy. I hope this helps at least a little :)
2006-06-30 18:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I teach social skills to children. Since you're a grown-up I'd say brush up on current events, cultural happenings, music. You can let the others take the lead and listen to what they're saying. There really is no easy answer to making friends. Find someone who you feel at ease with and share things in common with. Don't befriend others who treat you badly or talk about others because they will do it to you. You don't need friends like that. Join a hobby group, volunteer. Good luck.
2006-06-30 18:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always helps to do small talk, I know it can seem silly, but it can break the ice. So talk about the weather, or recent news events, or a movie that's out. Ask questions, ask about other people's interests, hobbies, or work. Share about yourself, but don't hog the conversation. It does get easier so hang in there.
2006-06-30 18:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been really shy all my life. when other kids saw me in the store and waved hi i would tottally cringe and run the other way. i woulld walk a completly different way home from the bus stop just so other kids wouldnt see me and talk to me. i guess i just feel like their going to draw attention to me. im 23 now and its a lot better. i think it just gets a little easier with age but not always.
2006-06-30 18:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by jkgilbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine to be the " quite type " Many people talk too much and are offensive.
Do not try to change, Just relax and be yourself. Learn to like you self. Develop the image that you are " the strong, silent type "
It is not a matter of learning to please others, it is a matter of learning to be pleased with yourself.
Have fun, enjoy life !
2006-06-30 18:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by sonny_too_much 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read the newspaper a get hip on current events. ask people how they feel about things, are they having a good time, other good places they like? you know stuff like that. oh, and don't forget to mention that you're a little uncomfortable. most of all be yourself!
2006-06-30 18:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by fooz1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a group. If you like volleyball, find a team to join. Sewing - find a class. Reading - a book group. You will find more friends if you have something in common with them to start with. Another good place is your local church.
2006-06-30 18:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by cseehausen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat yourself up! You're Shy just like me and Many others! Just work on your skills and don't focus on yourself when in these situations!
Good luck!
2006-06-30 18:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a couple shots of Tequila and you'll be the social butterfly you want in mere minutes. I guarantee it.
2006-06-30 18:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by westernndguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋