HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND/BOYFRIEND LOOKING AT PORN MAGAZINES?
2006-06-30 17:54:30 · 13 answers · asked by jenha1005 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HE HIDES IT FROM ME...THEN GETS MAD AT ME WHEN I FIND THEM! AND HE DONT WANT ME TO HAVE MY OWN BUT HE DOES!
2006-06-30 18:02:52 · update #1
Something that men just dont seem to get, is by looking at porn, or mens mags although they arent physically cheating they are in away mentally cheating..and usually its not that we're jealous of the girls in the mags its how our men make us feel , like we have to look like the girls in the mags to get that kind of attention from them as if we are less then good enough which ends up giving women a complex about how they look ..which leads to insecurities and a whole new bag of problems.. Although it seems very innocent for a man to look but not touch.. it does play a mental head game cause Most women dont look like the girls in the mags, heck even the girls in the mags dont look that good in real life.. thanks to airbrushing.. although its fantasy, i feel if a man really loves u and says he's devoted to just you, then he shouldnt feel the need to get aroused by other women..
2006-06-30 18:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He shouldn't hide them. He should also let you look at porn if you want, especially if he's looking at it. It sounds to me like he has some feelings about porn, maybe he's not okay with porn but sometimes he gets caught up and looks at it.
It's probably something you need to talk about. Ask him about his feelings with porn, does he feel guilty about it, or is he jealous that your looking at porn? How does he feel about the women and men in porn? Would he just look at porn that isn't degrading to you? Could you choose porn together, even if you don't have to look at it together?
Porn isn't a problem in a relationship unless its damaging the relationship, and it sounds like that is what is going on in your relationship.
2006-07-01 02:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guys perspective.... He is playing with fire. Read the book "An Affair of the Mind" to find out what is really going on when guys look at porn.
2006-07-01 02:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by schafer_mail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont mind if my husband looks at porn but it would bother me if he didn't let me have some of my own. maybe you sould ask and find out why it bothers him and try to get into it with him.
2006-07-01 01:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind, it's better than him cheating on you. You need to feel good about yourself and then him looking at porn probably won't bother you as much. I haven't met a man who doesn't do this.
2006-07-01 01:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Daz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually do not mind as long as he is with me if I am not around that is when I have a problem with it because I do not like him hiding anything from me.
2006-07-01 00:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Naomi M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok if it is not an obsession. Men get excited by looking at porn. Sometimes too excited, but it can be nice if you are horny, too.
2006-07-01 01:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if they could c it at home n u got what they need than y would they need 2 look at that ****
2006-07-01 01:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by BabyGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u no watever puts him in the mood... if ur not into him lookin @ other women jus make things a lil more kinkier!! lol
2006-07-01 00:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fine. i like when we go search together better! but if finds something good, trust me, he let's me now right away! after that it's all good ;)
2006-07-01 00:57:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋