To all arab fathers out there:
Please help me out, I'm a behaved 18 year old, and my father is a pretty easy-going guy. But sometimes he gets really uneasy and feels the need to protect me, his youngest daughter, from things that would be okay any other day. How do I handle this type of situation?
Him and I are somewhat close, but I still haven't figured him out. How do I get him to relax a bit and grant me more simple priveleges? After all, I am a working woman starting college in the fall, but I do live under his roof.
Also, how can I prove that him and my mother have raised me well and that I can be trusted?
2006-06-30 17:35:37 · 6 answers · asked by happyfarah88 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
This is an update:
Come on people, why has only one person encouraged me to change the situation? It seems like the others are all middle eastern, and it's really sad that you all basically told me "sit down, don't be too outgoing, your reputation comes first". That's wrong. Reputation is not what I thrive on. I need an answer to my question...not an alternative to my goal.
2006-07-02 06:18:44 · update #1
find a good time and discuss with him.it sounds you and your father is like friends so go ahead. good luck!
2006-06-30 17:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's difficult for you to reach his bottom. He might trust you some how, but not enough to let you have a special life.
He feels like the moment he'll stop protecting you, you're going to drink as a crazy woman, and develop a good reputation as a very bad woman. You might be a naive girl. Or, in the best of situations, you won't marry, and that is going to damage his own name.
You can't help it now, it's something the time may resolve it, but to keep standing at the present time, try to keep in a company of your own culture, more with girls. Work harder on your studies, and your work. Be optimist, serious, and give the others the idea about you that you're a tough woman, keep him close, and make him feels that. Also, talk to your mother and him about your ambition, make some good choices that people in your age do not take usually, and reflect some maturity.
I hope you the best. Just know that it'll get better with the time.
2006-07-02 11:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will NOT understand what your father is doing for you now. You CAN'T!!
To begin with you're not a father, you haven't lived on this planet as long as your father, you can't think like a man with a man's intentions towards a young woman. Your father KNOWS what evil lurks in the hearts of men!!
Take a chill pill or you may not live to see what it's like to become an adult and make your own decisions. Meaning let your father protect you while he can so you can make it to adulthood.
Your parents DO trust you, they don't trust society. Keep living you're apt to hit some eye-opening experiences in life.
2006-07-07 18:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by blakelycollierbrown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep doing the right things, honey........He'll come around......He just is a bit on the protective side and when you get older you'll truly appreciate the fact that he cares as much as he does.....Remember, sweetie, anyone can be a dad but it takes a REAL MAN to be a father........
2006-07-01 00:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im arabic, and one piece of advice i have for you, is just do what he says, until you get married and move out. he is protecting you from the scum bags we have in this cold world, who are out to ruin your reputation.
2006-07-01 00:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by trader4578 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threaten to tell the FBI that he is starting an Al-qaeda cell.
2006-07-01 00:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋