Is it right for your parents to try and stop you from marrying the person you love? Should they be able to decide who you can or cannot marry?
2006-06-30 17:17:50 · 10 answers · asked by youdontknowme 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your parents cant decide who you marry unless you allow them to influence your decision as a parent it is hard to see your children make the wrong decisions but you have to let them make their own mistakes The only thing we can do as a parent is to try to give the best advice and let our children go from there ( I am talking about adult children 18 and over) Believe it or not some of us parents have from personal experience know whats coming on down the line before they do thats why we try to forewarn Usually its after the fact I hear ya know mom you were right The only advice I can give you is if you are unsure about marriage go to pre marriage counseling listen to your heart and pray that God directs you in making the right decision
2006-06-30 17:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by corkscrew62816 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In America, no way, in other countries, sometimes yes. Marriages are in large part custom and part of a bigger community's standards of behavior.
But as to what I think you are really asking - No..ultimately the two people who wish to marry should make their own decision, but....and these are important buts,
Sometimes the parents genuinely see a problem with your relationship that you are too love blind to see. (trust me on this one, I wish my parents had told me what they had seen in my ex-husband),
Sometimes they are concerned that significant cultural differences may exist that will make a marriage far more difficult. These differences may be an age gap, religion, economic or even racial. The hard part here can be sorting out what is a valid concern and what is pure prejudice.
And something else you need to keep in mind is that your marriage should not come between the relationship of a parent and child. Those bonds were not meant to be broken and if you marry someone they disapprove of you will suffer this loss, as may your children.
Your parents concerns should be taken to heart and given valid consideration, however, in the end, sometimes parents are wrong and you should do what you want to do.
Just be sure you really listened carefully (and note if your friends agree with your folks too, odds are they are right and you might want to at least delay a wedding).
And...unless you've been through a breakup or divorce you never thought would happen, you won't get this one yet, but it is true -
The Beatles lied, love is not all you need.
A marriage cannot survive on love alone.
2006-07-01 00:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....you should take the time to hear what your parents have to say about him. One bad marriage with a guy ruins everything. You go to court and wonder why you married the person in the first place. Get to know him better, and don't make any decisions too quick. Your parents though should be listened to with consideration, but they shouldn't interfere with what you want to do.
2006-07-01 00:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at reasons and think logically why you want to marry the man you want to marry and why ur parents are against this marriage. Go with whoever makes more 'sense'. sometimes people can't see whats wrong with teh person or the relationship that seems to be their perfect dream, and it takes an outsider to make u realize....think girl...u'll figure it out. do some brain work give ur emotions a vacation while you do it. alright? good luck to you!!!!
2006-07-01 00:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that most parents just want what is best for their children. A person who is not involved in the relationship can often see things that we can't. I would seriously consider the thoughts of my parents, but in the end it is not their decision.
2006-07-01 00:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats tough, i believe this marriage is tough work it take a life time thou im already married to a wonderful women for 8 yrs with 2 kids. My parent are divorce for 17 years and my mom still love my father till this day eventhou he is married again. No matter who u marry, just remember, YOU NEEED TO MAKE IT WORK TOGETHER. u need to hands to clap, i always say. Good luck and safe journey.
2006-07-01 00:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that your parents should tell you that you can or can't (unless your a minor) they can give their opinion and you can listen and think about it, but in the end the one who is going to be with this person is you, not your parents, it helps if your parents like him/her, but they definately don't have to.
2006-07-01 00:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by mgrlygrl83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the suspect that hes bad news than give them somt time with them.
But if hes the person u really want to be with, then u decide.
2006-07-01 00:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on yor culture and religion but i believe u(and only u) should be able to marry whoever u want as long as u love them.
2006-07-01 00:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and no.
2006-07-01 00:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋