What changes in a person after high school that makes them appreciate all the different qualities in people after they have spent years just trying to fit in?
2006-06-30 17:07:26 · 11 answers · asked by Nobody 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
In high school you feel like you had to belong, but by adulthood, you experience real life and you just have to grow up and not care about what others want and try to make yourself happy. By adulthood, you figure out that that is what really counts.
2006-06-30 17:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by bec3tiny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To my way of viewing "the progressions" of life's journey... there exist some prime facie components that determine the level of importance that something takes on in one's life. Firstly, there is the concern of self & social acceptance: Also, the degrees to which a sense of self-assuredness, self-confidence, & Maslow's hierarchy have been met, enter in here. Many are "caught-up" with an overwhelming need to be liked or "accepted" by others, simply because of deficeits in their psyches at that point in time... once they have achieved a "threshold" of acceptance, then the "drive" begins to wane... once they have experienced sufficient "validation" from their peers. Secondly, high school is often seen as the last real stop for "socialization" before the demands of adulthood are set into motion. Dating practices, dancing, & learning the right lines and "moves" all figure in to this process of acclimatization. Once 'adults' have found their respective niches, choosen their lifestyles, and marital staus, they tend to focus more on 'self-actualization.' They still value friends and work to keep them but the degrees to which the invest their time and other resources is greatly subdued by "high school standards."
It is always a "popularity contest" with some individuals, and these people usually are happiest in a political job or other entrepreneurial pursuits. It should be stressed however, that these generalizations are just that, and certainly open many "exceptions to the rule."
2006-06-30 17:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by cherodman4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kid in high school is smart- straight A... (nerd)... creative (art freaks/drama weirdos)... responsible, reliable (teachers pet).. what about the kid that works after school and cant hang out with his friends as much. (hard working... dedicated)
i was a cheerleader in HS. i did everything i could to fit in. i liked everything.. but never found out who i really was... what i really liked.. unlike the kids mentioned above. they knew what they were already good at.
im 25 now and would date any of the unpopular kids that i said before.my own values and expectations of others changed... dating a football player or the first guy the got his license... or the MOST POPULAR guy means absolutely nothing. Grown women want security, love, compassion, someone responsible/reliable ... looks would be a plus.
2006-06-30 17:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by avita81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
school is just a big cage of animals jammed together and the most liked person becomes popular and leads the animals. but when school is over the animals are released from the cage they are free. then the animals relies that every person is the same. so the animals dont have to follow someone popular anymore because they arent stuck with them.
2006-06-30 17:16:21 · answer #4 · answered by AfricanWolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some adults still talk about High School all the time!
I know some people who have never made friends outside their high school cliques...
Check out Uncle Rico in Napoleon Dynamite!
2006-07-03 04:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kwaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because teenage brains are not fully developed yet, nor do they have the life experience to understand what really matters in life. You have to get out into the real world and get your butt kicked a few times before you learn what is really important.
2006-06-30 17:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ilene W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you mature and realize that being popular is nothing compared to keeping food in the fridge and getting up to date on all the bills.
2006-06-30 17:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when we become adults we learn to prioritize our life. We realize that the unpopular people are more loyal and that is what matters in a friend, loyalty and trustworthiness. Some lessons in life are learned with experience
2006-06-30 23:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by AGgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because in high school your not fully mature and there are jocks that you see every day,they might think its important.In adulthood you dont see the same people every day
2006-06-30 17:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by lildibbz2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money. After HS it's how much do you make a year? Sad but true.
2006-06-30 17:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by TheShield 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋