What to do wen u can't stand ur mom?

Question

Like u don't get along with her at all

Answer 1

I take a minute to remember that she is the only mother I will ever have, and that I would not be here withot her.

Answer 2

Mom's are just people, and no one gets along with everyone all the time. Some moms may not be likeable people at all. It's too bad that mothers and daughters can't always get along, but part of her job as a mom is to annoy, embarrass and stop your fun. If she is doing more hurtful things, then I'm sorry but you may have it really bad. Write a journal and remember the stuff she does that you can't stand. When you turn 18 and control your own life and (eventually) have your own family you can do things your way. Until then, grit your teeth and bare it because you don't get to pick your family. The best you can do is try to learn from it.

Answer 3

i think we are half of the people who would agree that its not easy to get along with moms. They order around, talk a lot, yell a lot and making our lives a big big deal that if they can buy a remote to control us, they will. But half of the other would say that when u get close with ur mom and be like best friends, u found the very best. Because most of the time, though its hard to admit sometimes, mom loves her children, unconditionally. She is just worried about her kids thats why they act so protective. So my advise is, if u can turn around the table, and find a way for you and your mom to be friends, do it. Try your best. After all, there is only one mom, we can never choose or replace her, whoever she might be.

Answer 4

I can remember being a teenager and hating my mom. Telling her I hated her. Totally disrespecting her, calling her names, not wanting to listen to her. I thought she was stupid and she didn't know what she was talking about.
Then, shortly after high school graduation, she died. I can't tell you how many times I think about the way I had behaved with her and totally regreted it. It has been many, many years since she passed, and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss her.
Realize that if she nags you, gets in your business, whatever it is, she isn't doing it for entertainment. She's doing it because she cares about you. No, you don't have to like it, but her intentions will always be good.
At some point in your life you will learn to 'like' your mother. You will love her always because she's your mom, but you may not always like her. You will get along with her better, and as much as you may not want to hear it, you will be able to look back on things your mom may have said to you and go "Mom was right".

Answer 5

Need a bit more info, here, however, try calming down a bit, take a small time out for yourself, and sort out for yourself, what you's are at opposite ends about. Most often, mom's fear for their child's future and sometimes that fear prevents them from trusting and conversation is hard to be established. Perhaps she needs to hear reassurance from you, that you have a future planned out and what that contains. That would break down a huge wall, and perhaps a starting point for the two of you. Taking small steps at a time is helpful, and perhaps better. There are alot of issues to deal with, and it can be accomplished, and trusting is a difficult thing when anger is there. Trust has to be gained on both sides, and that will take time, and patience. It is possible, she may be going through a difficult time herself, and has a lot to deal with, and her patience is lacking right now. There could be a lot of things to be considered. However, in the meanwhile, try to relax, do a bit of thinking, and remain open minded with hope that your little steps will bring you's closer. Good Luck!

Answer 6

This not only goes to the one that asked the question but to all of you that did answer the question that is having the same problem of sorts with your moms.I assume that for the most part all of you are in your early teens at best, or other wise you probably wouldn't still be at home. I'm 49 and a mother of two. I can proudly say that I got along very well with both of mine. It is very sad that you don't get along with your moms. My daughter and I talk about anything that she wants to talk about, grant it, I may not always agree with what she is doing or has done for that part. But there has been times that I didn't want her to do something that she really wanted to do very badly and she would get mad at me for not letting her do it. Case in point, one day close to the end of the school year she came home and wanted to go to an end of the school year party with some friends. I would not let her go, she got very mad at me over this, stayed mad all night and the next day was still mad at me. Around noon that day, she got a call from another friend of hers. She told my daughter what happened at the party. To make a long story short here, there were drugs at the party, and alcohol as well. Three of the kids ended up in the hospital and one of them died that night. There was also a drug bust there that night as well, several of the kids ended up in jail. The bust is how the kids ended up in the hospital or else the other two might have died instead of just one. My daughter told me about this and then thanked me for not letting her go and also told me she was sorry for the way she had acted the night before.

I'm sure there are mothers out there that are very mean and they should not be that way. Like I said earlier, I am 49, I myself have even moved back home to take care of my health failing parents now. There are times that even my own mom and I don't see eye to eye on things even now with me as old as I am. But she IS the only mother that I have got and I know that she will not be around for ever. So there for I will try to savory every moment I have with her, good or bad, cause some day she won't be here at all.

My mom grips at me if I use to much water! Like in the shower--turn on the water to wet down--shut it off--soap up and wash good -- turn on water and rinse off fast. Other wise you are using to much water. Don't throw away wax package inside cereal box--you can use that like you would wax paper. The list goes on and on.

When your moms are mean to you as you say, it is really because they do love you and really do care about you alot. We mothers do worry about our kids, that is our job.

Answer 7

I'm guessing you may be under 19, 20? Anyway, when you are a teenager you are trying to be more independant, nearly an adult, and kind of self envolved, its NORMAL. Your mom is going through stuff too, she's losing her little girl. Just 11 years ago, my mom and me couldn't be in the same room, we'd fight like cats and dogs. Anyhow, once I moved out on my own when i REALLY was an adult, it sort of disappeared because we both were able to relate to one another in regards to life, we both had common ground. It'll pass.

Answer 8

I'd say pray - tell God exactly how you feel about your Mom, Dad and even about God Himself. Ask for help to forgive her many shortcomings, because we are short too. Be respectful anyways. At a decent time have some things already prepared in writing to talk with your Mom... Don't get too crazy though - Just say I feel ___________ When you did/do ______________ because ____________ Forgive. Why? Christ paid the price to restore our relationship with Him and others if we follow His ways and let Him live through us and ask Him to change us. Your Mom may never change but that's between God and her. Love her anyway - Live without regrets. Pray for her with other close friend who Love God

Answer 9

Get to know her.. I teach teenagers and pre adults to love there parents. When you start to see your mother as a person and not who you think she is too you.. you will find she is a entirely diffrent person... she has been forced to be strick, to be disaplanary and to tell you what the heck you have to do every mint of your day..

first. get in the phot books and look at her for real. next look for the year books and read hers.. find letters or notes she has wrote and read them.. You will see she was a diffrent person..

next talk to her friends get to know them and see what kind of women she really is away from you.. talk to your dad and ask him question... Maby you dont relize she just is 'A WOMEN' and not your mother.. not a wife.. BUT YOUR BEST FRIEND..

I am 44yrs old, my daugher and son in law and grand daughter live with me and my son.. Why becouse they know how much i love them. I have sacraficed my husband, my college, my friends, my job, my careers for my kids so they can go to college. i opend up a day care in my house so i can stay home and take care of my grandchild, be here when they all need me for emotional support or just to be there out let..

I am my kids best friend i am willing to give them 12yrs of my life for college i am down to 9 yrs.. I have destroyed 5 relationships for they do not understind why i put so much into my kids.

why, they are my responisibility, i have hurd there dreams, and i have spent my life helping them achive them, and i will continiue untill they achive them. Then it will be my time ' i will be alone untill i find a new partner' who will stick around.. lol

untill then.. look at your mother with diffrent eyes.. and open your ears.. you just might find the best friend you ever known in your life.

ps.. all my kids friends come to me. i have 18kids from 17yrs old to 28yrs old that ask me for advice and guidens.. I love being a mother..

Answer 10

I went through this as a teenager and now my mom's my best friend. You need to talk to her...She probably just doesn't remember what it was like to be young. Sometimes parents are intimidated by their kids.

Answer 11

well i dont know waht to say becasue i cant stand my mom well mother eighter, but what i do is instead of trying to make a relationship with her i stay a way from her to let her know how much she miss her " little girl" but i dont know because one of these days i am going to miss her becasue i know that it is other things worse things that she could be doing trust me i know and i 'm not talking about drugs.