We want to get married on my 18th birthday but my parents are totally against it and his parents think its the greatest idea ever.I mean we have only been going out for 1 year but we were really close friends before we even ever started going out. I am soooo totally lost because i love my dad to death and he has always directed me in the right path. I still want to got to college too but im soo confused.I love Stephen so damn much it hurts. we want to get married and have a baby in sooo little amount of time its not even funny. we are so in deep in love it hurts. He makes my heart melt. He makes me the person I am.He is my best friend, my support, my caregiver, my sex partner, my one and only, my everything!! He may not have been my first but he sure will be my last. He is so damn hot its not even funny. I love this guy to death.
2006-06-30 16:35:22 · 27 answers · asked by angel_devil_downhearted 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was 15 years old when I met my husband.We fell madly in love,such as you did.At the time I felt adults didnt understand how much I loved him and vice versa and to be honest the adults didint.They thought we were young silly children who dont know what love really is.
So, by the time we where 19 we decided to move out and "play house".We got an apartment , a car and jobs.What I did not realize then was.... I had no college education or skills to get a descent job and my husband didint either.We where soo caught up in ourselves we never stopped to think about how we where going to manage.
Its been 8 years since we made that decision to branch out sweetie.And trust me ... A day does not go by where we think ... what if?. We are about to file bankruptcy and we are stuck in low paying jobs.We have no opportunity to start a family because we can bearly survive.We are at each others throats all the time.Trust me ... this is not the life I have envisioned for us. But sometimes all it takes is cold hard reality to set in.
Sweetie, If you 2 really love each other.Go to college get an education.You guys can even go to college in the same town.If your love is as strong as you say it is.You have all the time in the world. God Bless You and good Luck
2006-07-01 05:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by serena 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
lol... I'm glad you feel that way about him. Marriage will not change your love it will not make it stronger. Only time will make you stronger if you both feel this way stay ingaged. Wear a promise ring know in your heart that you dedicate your love solely to each other. Live off campus together. Live with each other for ATLEAST 2 years and then plan a wedding for the next year or so. Don't rush a wedding love will wait. Listen to your dad he knows what is best for you. If you want to have a child with him. Make sure that you can support that child before you make the child. I child WILL not solve issuse they are very demanding you life WILL NOT be the same. It has it's rewards but they com with sacrafices too. Enjoy your youth you only have it for a short time. When you have a child you dedicate NO LESS than 5 years of "mommy this and mommy that" every 15 min. and I am NOT joking. they take your constant attention. Children are GREAT. but you have to make sure you are willing to give up all you time for them expecially the first 3 years. They will have 80% of your attention at all times and sometimes demand 110% of your time. They also take alot of money to care for. Go to college, get a degree make sure you are finacially ready before you chose to have a child. Your boyfriend is 15 do you really want him working some DEAD end job just to barly pay the bills and wonder who's parent is going to help buy grosheries? Go to college get stability in your life before you create more life.
2006-06-30 23:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Misty A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married at 16 for a guy is not a good idea. Men change drastically from the age of 16 to mid 20s. He may be your perfect mate now but in 5 years when he has found himself and what he will be in life he may not be what you want. Im 20 and my fiance is 24 and I can tell you right now I would not have been with him when he was 16. He has grown so much in these past 8 years. Your early 20s is really when you find yourself and you decide who it is that you really are. In your late teens all you are really doing is mimicking other people. I understand being in love, trust me I'm there, but I dont see any real reason for you to get married right now. If you love eachother that much and you trust that you will be together 10 years from now, why not wait a few more years. You will both still be there, ready and willing to get married and really READY to support eachother and a potential baby. He will regret not using his early 20s to party and meet other girls and YES have sex with other girls. Trust me he will. My fiance has done all those things, he has experienced other girls and college, along with the army and being at war twice. You need to give HIM and yourself time to grow before you make a big step like that. Besides, give him a chance to be old enough to buy you a decent ring for crap sakes.
2006-06-30 23:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question for you is: What kind of parents would encourage two children who are so young to be married?
His parents must be out of their minds! Listen to your
Dad. He is still on the right path. You may want to marry
at 18, but think about this child at 15. He is barely out of
junior high. Back off for a while. I bet if you would, he would
have another girlfriend within a month. That is what little
boys do. Do you really want to marry a young boy and
wind up getting a divorce by the time you are 19? What is
your rush anyways? You have a lifetime to get married and
you sure don't need babies. Sounds like you are having sex
with one now. Also, do you realize that if you keep having sex
with him after you are 18, you can go to jail for that?
2006-06-30 23:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by just guessing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but that's way too young, no matter how much you feel you love him now. Besides, if you love each other so much then why rush into marriage? No one says that you and Stephen can't still be together if you decide to go to College. Why not take things slower? Move in together after high school and play house for awhile. Then, if you both still feel the same way, get married in a couple of years. I don't see what your rush is. Are you afraid that if you don't marry him now you may lose him later?
2006-06-30 23:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by xina_scully 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put the marriage train away for a couple of years... you two havent even experienced life yet.... your fiance isnt even old enough barely to get a job... who is gonna support you two>? how are ya gonna pay bills? a home? and your talking about babies already.... girl you have no idea how hard that is on some one so young.... you being 18 is more mature and possibley equipped to handle the stress from a baby but a 15 year old male???? no way... give it a few years till he is 18 and see how it goes from there IF you are still together...... parents are usually right when some thing like this is going on.... i know from experience . I know you want what you want but deep down is it really logical? and do you really think it will last???? for your sake i hope so but dont put all your eggs in one basket... especially with someone so young that they probably dont even know what they want yet. or what is out there for them in the real world yet.. dont forget that age difference also qualifies as statutory rape..... not a road i would want to go down or have follow me forever.... think about it.
2006-06-30 23:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by shandafightsfire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check list off if you have made preparations.
___ - finances. Are you prepared to live onyour own? Parents are not obligated to house, feed, or support you.
___ - children. Not saying this will happen but very well happen when you are not ready for young ones. Will you be ready for motherhood, feeding, diapers, etc.
___- work. are one, both or either able to make payments. Rent, car, utilities, food among other things are monthly bills.
___- responsibility. Are both of you ready for the lifelong commitment to be with each other through thick and thin, til death? Remember, love is an action verb. Loves shows by doing, not just by saying it.
I sincerley don't believe a 15 yr old can provide for you financially and socially. By your remarks saying he is hot brings the premonition that there is physical attraction whic is rushing your judgment.
If this is truly love, it can wait. Love has no time limit. Enjoy your life for now, love will show its worth in the time it needs to fully mature.
2006-07-01 00:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young. If you're in love enough now to get married right now, you should still be in love enough to get married a year or 2 years or 3 years from now. So waiting won't hurt you. I'm sure you don't want to listen, because thats what everyone is telling you, and thats because everyone is right. Because of your age difference, which when you get a little older won't really matter, the next few years might be hard for you two, but getting married won't really make it easier.
2006-06-30 23:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by frenchymcwaffler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although everyone so far seems to think you are being irresponsible I think you are simply acting on feelings, very strong feelings. If you do love him, not lust then waiting a few years won't hurt either of you. And as far as children, it would be very prudent to wait a few years. My wife and I love our children so much, but both wish we could have had a couple years to ourselves to get to know each other better and enjoy each other alone. At the very least take some time to think about it. I am not saying your parents are right, but I am saying to make sure it is what you want and that you are both ready for it.
2006-07-01 00:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Robert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok lets see if this is right....Your 17 and he is 15 and both of you are wanting to get married and have a baby.Do any of you have a job?HMMM,guess not.Why would a 17 and 15 year old want to take a big step like this?Seems yall are wanting to grow up to fast.Why dont yall finish school and when the time comes that both of yall are old enough to make it on yall own then Get Married and plan a family
Its not all what is seems to be.Do yall have money saved to take care of the baby?Can yall afford a house and the bills that come with it?What about the diapers and formula for the baby?Having a baby is not easy.You have to have the money to support that baby?What yall going to live with your parents or his?
Now adays it seems they keep getting younger and younger.Why cant they worry about their education?Then when they have finish school,then think about this.I think you need to sit down and think about what you are wanting to do.Before you end up married and 9 months pregnant and having the goverment support you and your baby.
There is plenty of time for this to happen.But at this age,I would be enjoying my teen years.Good Luck to you and I hope you really think about what you are getting into.
2006-07-01 00:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by ~Devilz~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋