Last night I was at my best friends house and sat down at his computer to look up something on Google. I typed in the letter "g" and the recently visited websites list came up: all gay porn sites. No one else uses his computer (except for me, on occasion), so it had to have been him viewing those pages. There weren't just pop-ups, they were all kinds of gay sites (pictures, videos) and the sub-pages that were visited, too. I've had my doubts for some time that he might be homosexual. No matter what, he's my best friend, and he sexuality doesn't play a factor in our friendship. But I have a question: Should I ignore what I saw, or somehow approach the subject with him? We've discussed sexuality in general, and he knows (because some of our friends are gay), that it would never change how I felt about him. What should I do? Forget it, or address it? I'd hate for him to be feeling uncomfortable, because he doesn't have to go through this alone... if he IS actually going through something.
2006-06-30 16:20:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If it doesn't matter, then why bring it up? If he is, then cool, he will tell you in his own time. If he isn't, and is just curious about naked people, that is also cool
2006-06-30 16:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I'd talk to him about it. I mean, I'm no pro or anything, but you're obviously an open minded person and will not shun him for being who he is. If you are best buds, you should be able to share everything....including the fact that you are not interested, of course. It's important to have open communication with friends. And yes, I think it will totally help with any transition he might have. I mean, I think a great weight would be lifted off of him....he doesn't have to keep a big secret like that from you anymore...and he can actually feel comfortable with talking to you. I mean, it's gotta be rough, with so many people that don't accept it......Don't ya think he might need someone to just talk to and get that stuff off his chest every once in a while? Gosh, it's gotta be hard to find someone he can trust to talk to that won't judge him.
2006-06-30 16:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by terrapinqueen76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just be curious or something. It would probably be helpful for him if you brought up the subject. I'm sure he knows that you saw all those web addresses pop-up and is worried about what you are thinking. It is best to just go ahead and get the conversation over with. You will both feel better when you don't have this unknown between you anymore.
2006-06-30 16:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by Annette R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its best to approach your friend on this subject. I'd begin by showing him that you'll still be his best friend. Just show him he has no reason to feel uncomfortable. If its an issue of secrecy let him know that you won't tell anyone. It sounds simple to do but I know its hard. Trust a stranger, lol. And if he isn't gay then tell him someone is looking up gay porno on his computer. Best friends shouldn't be uncomfortable with sharing anything with each other.
2006-06-30 16:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't told you anything about visiting those sites or suggesting that he may be gay then maybe he doesn't feel comfortable telling you. Meaning it's his life, his business and no one else's. He may get really upset because he never wanted his best friend to know or anyone else for that matter.
2006-06-30 16:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by Leeta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defining climate someone is gay or no longer has no longer something to do with stereotypes. each and absolutely everyone's diverse. that is merely the way your buddy is... And it makes sence that he does no longer sleep with a prostitute because he's a married guy with morals. He would not want anymore one-nighters! you should do an same even besides the undeniable fact that your merely courting. as well to you question: MORALS = "Doing the right element"
2016-10-14 00:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i would leave it alone for a while... see if he brings it up... you could maybe drop suttle hints or leave web page open to his sites and see if he notices and then brings it up... But that is great for you not being freaked out by it. It shouldnt matter what sexual preference a person has, that doesnt change who he is inside. especially if you have been freinds long enough.. jut support him and be there for him when he finally does need you..and let him know its ok with you and you are not gonna change your freindship over that one small detail.......
2006-06-30 16:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by shandafightsfire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sites just apear out of no where, now if he searched for gay porn that would be a different thing. But how can you find out, hit him with a baseball bat and if he screams like a girl.. then he is GAY!@!!!
2006-06-30 16:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by eagles757 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. You can still be friends if he respects your right to be hererosexual. Many straight people have gay friends. Try not to develop homophobia.
2006-06-30 16:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would talk about it with him beacause i am gay and thats what I would want my friend to do
hope i helped
2006-06-30 16:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by adam b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋