it is official i was reported to cps my sons still with his dad i called the cops they couldnt do anything because it was a civil matter, i have no idea what they told cps. i dont drink smoke go out or do drugs i do yell alot and maybe curse but its when i keep repeating my self what can i do now i am lost i feel i lost a big part of me i have no one to blame but my self i shouldnt have been mean to my son i shouldn't put him down like he does to my daughter will cps take my other kids for not being the best mother for yelling screaming making them clean their room what i dont know what i did that was so wrong why does my son hate me why i guess he got tired of me i have custody of him for 14yrs and now his dad never around comes in the picture and takes him away from me... i blew it
2006-06-30 16:20:04 · 4 answers · asked by jamer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok first things first do you have a custody agreement? Because if you do and your son was supposed to come home the police must interfere and bring him home. As long as you show the police the agreement they have to go get him, if his father refuses to bring him back for any reason even if it is because he called cps he can not make the decision to remove your son from your care. It is not a civil matter if you have an agreement. Ok the next issue how do you know you were reported to cps did they contact you? Because yelling at your son to clean his room and yelling at him to behave is not enough to have you investigated. At least not in nys. What you need to do first is get your son home, the police might try to tell you that they can't do anything, because it is out of their jurisdiction or that is is a matter for family court, be forceful, sound like you know what you are talking about! Demand they go get your son, and if they won't ask to speak to their captain. But get your son home! If you don't it could be used aganist you later.
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2006-06-30 16:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by candygurlnc23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try your best to just stay calm right now. You have to remember that you are dealing with a teenage boy and teenagers period could be a handfull. Your son is just probably trying to test the waters with his dad for a little while maybe just to get to know him better and try something new. Who knows if he just wants to see if he could get away with more stuff with him cause he thinks you are too strict. If you do think its something you did as far as yelling and stuff then try to get some help with that but you are doing the best you can and have to know that your son will most definetly know how good you've been to him even if it might take a while.
2006-06-30 23:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by maliksa3782 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god bless you. i know it is of little consolation, but have faith. often, in cases like this, common sense prevails. i think you provide a god, loving home for your son. in time the novelty of living with dad may wear off. please go to family court in your jurisdiction and get visitation schedule for now. try to maintain the communication lines. if you need a sounding board, email lndnns@yahoo. good luck.
2006-07-01 02:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear this. does your son want to be with his dad?
2006-06-30 23:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋