My parents recently decided to get a divorce. Things have not been smooth. Now they ask about each other and I feel uncofortable talking about one parent to the other. But I feel bad about not answering their questions. I feel so caught-up in the center. What should I do?
2006-06-30 15:56:00 · 8 answers · asked by ______ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell them that you love both of them, but, you dont want to be put in the middle.
2006-06-30 15:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend has the same problem with his parents. I really think the best thing to do is, like everyone else said, talk to them. But make sure you tell them that they're the one's who divorced each other. You didn't divorce either of them! You love them both and they need to work out their differences with each other. Eventhough they are no longer married, they still have to maintain a relationship as co-parents of you.
You have your own life to live and your own issues to resolve on your own. Take care of yourself and let them do the same.
2006-07-01 06:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by blahblahgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let me say that I'm sorry that your parents have put you in the middle of this. Yes you are their child but that doesn't give them the right to use you like this. You need to tell each of them that you are no longer going to comment on the other one. If they want to know what is going on they will need to talk to each other. Will they get back together? That we can't say but you need to be kept out of the middle of things. That isn't fair to you or them.
Good luck
2006-06-30 16:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but, this must be terribly uncomfortable for you. I would tell each of them that the other one has been asking about them. Tell each that you don't feel that it is your place to spy on them and that you don't know the answers any way. I would ask them to speak with each other for the answers they need. If they persist in asking you to spy, I would speak with another adult such as your grandparents or aunts or uncles to help you out.
2006-06-30 16:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak your mind, tell the true, tell them that need to understand where the question is and change it. then it should work. i mean is your father using a lot of money by borrowing to his friends, then tell him to stop. if you mom shop a lot, tell her to stop. if the work hour is different, get a new job. find the problem
2006-06-30 16:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them if they love you not to use you as a go between. When asked about the other tell them why not ask them yourself ?
2006-06-30 16:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them that u don't feel confortable doing that
if they are good parents then they would understand what they are doing is hurting u to and they would back off
2006-06-30 15:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by TrackStar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how you feel...they will try to understand you
2006-06-30 16:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋