2006-06-30 15:50:35 · 19 answers · asked by ccgforeyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is between two people, not three. You can have all the fantasies you want, but when you entered into marriage, you committed yourself to one person. Honor those vows.
2006-06-30 15:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by just♪wondering 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because it is a dream of yours doesn't mean that is what your wife wants. I am a bi female and my husband and I have had many fmf. I'm kinda in your shoes here. he want full fill my dream now w/ mfm. So I just put a stop to it all. It is very important for everyone involved to be very comfortable and happy with the event. Just back off. May end up like I did. He stopped talking about it. and then i wanted to give it a try. Best thing I ever did.
2006-06-30 16:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by melissa200523 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Princess-n-Pain FMF is a three sum one guy and two women.
Okay there is no given time to expect your spouse to say "OKAY lets bring a woman into our bed room" If you haven't been with two women before you may be disappointed after wards. She on the other hand my be overwhelmed by it and become addicted.
A bunch of talking between the two of you is needed. What is her fantasy? If she wanted a MFM how would you take that?
Remember the act is not the hard thing, its the mental and emotional relationship between you and your spouse that counts.
2006-06-30 16:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by tc_an_american 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on if she was serious when she agreed or thought that u may change your mind but if you love her maybe u should let it go depends on how much it bothers her she maybe jealous and not be able to see u that way een thought she agreed it matters how she feels now so u need to decide how important it is to u if it is worth maybe ruining your marriage over i know we used to do it and i loved it but there was friends of ours that tried it and it was the wifes idea she thought she was doing it for him and she was never the same emotionally after and was not mentally ready that is a huge part of that decision and all i can say is it is better when u are pretested of course and for her it would have been better with someone that they did not know good luck but listen to your wifes reasons for not k do not pressure her that is a very big deal i mean turn it around would u really want to see another guy givin it to her ? ? ?think about it she loves u
2006-06-30 16:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by great_weekday_friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not attracted to women, then yes.
They way you approach her about the situation is key. You need to talk to her about in a non-sexual situation. Don't say, "there's this girl at work I wanna see you with." You must be respectful of her boundaries and the commitment you made to each other. Don't pressure her. She has to feel comfortable.
But threesomes don't fall under marriage responsibilities. You can't EXPECT anything out of her. Her commitment was to YOU. Not YOU and some chick you think looks good.
2006-06-30 15:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by phoebster818 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to leave it a fantasy. If it really happens then it ruins the idea of the fantasy. I know I fantasized about it. We did it and after that It made me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I wish we had never done it. Now I don't have the one fantasy that really made me horny. I won't ever do it again. If she is not comfortable with it, then absolutely not. By the way I am female.
2006-06-30 16:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong to expect your wife to do anything she isn't comfortable with, regardless of if she knew it was a fantasy or not before you got married.
2006-06-30 15:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she know of the fantasy or that you wanted to make it real??? Their is no harm in asking,but respect her right to choose. Which is more iimportant the fantasy or your marriage?See if you can come up with one that you both are willing to explore. Peace.
2006-06-30 16:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by wildrover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...i think you have every right....i mean especially if she knew of this BEFORE hand......then that sorta in an indirect way "binds" her to your fantasy....your wife should take this into consideration since you are her husband and all......the man she chose to be with the rest of her life.....so no man...not wrong....just right.......GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-30 15:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by thick_lady_jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is a partnership, if you expect her to fulfill your fantasies then you should be okay when she expects you to not pressure her into doing what she does not feel comfortable doing.
2006-06-30 16:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋