My x was very controling and kept me under his thumb. I didn't have any friends. He works for a barge company and is gone 28 days at a time. When he was in for 28 days everything would be fine but when he left he would take our children/three year old twins and separate them between his mother and his sister only because he tricked me into giving him custody after going thrugh post-partom depression when they were born. I was left alone with my 1 year old daughter for 28 days and was not alowed to see my twins because of his mother and sister. I have left him and have my baby with me. He is interfering with my mail, has cut off my cell phone, and is trying to say that the property we own is all his. He is also trying to sue me for custody of my youngest daughter. What should I do he has left me basicaly homeless and without an income with a year old child?????
2006-06-30 15:23:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had a response that said i didn't mention beatings. I have had him arrested twice before in WV for domestic violence which landed me in the hospital but like most I accepted the appologies. since our children were born the violence has been mor emothional and mental. He controled all money, what I spent, where I went, what i did and so on. When he was at work/out of town for 28 days I was supposed to stay at home and if I was anywhere else when he called I was "Screwing around" or anything else he could come up with he didn't like not having control>
2006-06-30 15:57:31 · update #1
fight him, get a lawyer and fight him all the way.....
Get family and friends to go to court with you.........
Tell "no lies" (they always find out)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Let the courts know you went through post-par-tom depression when they were born. Giving him custody,,,, But you went through treatment and your better now (have your doctor or counselor testify for you, saying your healed) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your kids should be with you and they should see you are a good mother for giving them up when you were sick, but now your better and want them back where they belong.....
2006-06-30 15:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Thor Hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by consulting an area programs for domestic violence or the national 1-800 number you can check online and find it. Program 911 in your cell phone, if he gets verbally abusive try to record it. Call the law immedieately have a safety plan, do not instigate keep cash on hand, and a spare key hid for the vehicle. BUT GET A SAFE PLACE TO GO!!! Then get an attorney or legal aid. Good Luck, Many Blessings
2006-06-30 15:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by that's funny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you say, "My X", which means he is out of your life as of now??
Well, that leaves you with a lot of options.
First, get a restraining order.
Second, get a good Attorney. ( Which I realise is a an anomaly, but you'll find one )
There should be a lot of people / Organizations that would be willing to take up your case.
But though you mentioned Domestic Abuse, you never mentioned any instances of beating.
Dont worry about been homeless and a single parent.
If it is inspiration that you need, there are tons available.
Take JK Rowling, for instance. She was a single parent who was living off welfare, but now is SO rich that she is a billionaire!!!
So, Get thinking and start something new.
GO Girl, GO.
2006-06-30 15:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey- just as long as you get out of there thats what matters... do you have family or freinds- I am sure that they would take you in. I was a product of a domestic,verbal and mental abuse relationship.. I stayed at home bc he didnt want me around guys and lived as a hermit with our daughter... And when I got the guts to leave I went to live with my dad, got back on my feet and did what I had to do. There are free legal servies all over the place that wil help you to keep your children. In the state where I live, they will not take the child(ren) away from the mother unless they can be proven alcoholics, drug abusers or abusive mothers. See what you can find out- just get out of there and protect you and your kids!!! He cant take them from you no matter how hard he tries... I promise! Be strong and take charge of your life- he doesnt own you- you are not his property!!!
2006-06-30 15:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In many states, the bar association or some other benevolent organization puts together an organization to provide free or low cost legal representation. There is also the possibility that some of the attorneys in your office will perform work pro bono (free of charge). You can find this information by call your state's bar assocation (look for (name of state) State Bar Assocation).
2006-06-30 15:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 16 n my parents went through the same thing u should get a lawyer u probably wouldn't listen to me anyway because I'm 16 n who listens to 16 year old but i was taken from my mom n all that n my mom got a lawyer n she got me back n she won her case n u should put him on child support if he don't pay get him locked up
2006-06-30 15:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to call a lawyer and get to work. Call your parents..they will help you. And get your other children back NOW, sue for child support. IF he doesn't pay, have his butt locked up. You have been taken for a ride, and it is time to get off his merry go round and start your own show.
2006-06-30 15:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start over and get a new job and find a new
place to live. fight hard and get a lawyer. if you have any proof that
he used to abuse you, use it. but whatever it comes to, DO NOT BE AFRAID OF HIM.
2006-06-30 15:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by thekla o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about getting a job.
2006-06-30 15:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the police
2006-06-30 15:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋