I married 2 1/2 months ago and i wasn't able to trust him much because i heard him on the phone with another girl and i don't know if it's normal to feel like I made a mistake?
2006-06-30 15:05:34 · 21 answers · asked by Veronica M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you can do is follow your instincts.... someone once said "follow your heart and you can never go wrong".... A relationship is based on trust and communication and love... so many more things too. Talk to him and ask him to be honest with you- you deserve it.... tell him lying to you just makes it worse... You should feel comfortable in your marriage and if you dont that can be a heavy burden. If there are any hesitations, be open and tell him that you feel that this relationship isnt what it should be... You deserve to be happy and worry doesnt help, it only hinders. Good luck!
2006-06-30 15:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh it's normal to feel like you made a mistake. You are married now so thats huge. You have the whole better or worse thing going on. First off don't jump to conclusions the other girl could be his mom or sister. If you have evidence that he has a mistress, ditch his cheating ***. Normally counsling may be advised, but if he really is cheating, I am a big fan of kicking him to the curb, but take all his money first.
2006-06-30 22:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married since 2000 and I still feel like I made a mistake. Look, no one said that marriage was perfect. If you are in love with each other you will make it work somehow. Just hang in there and trust GOD and you will make it through. Remember, what GOD has put together let no man put assunder.
2006-06-30 22:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by catmanbigwil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to think that. It's just being human. I'm getting married Aug 12th and if something like that happened in our relationship, id feel the same way. I dont know that I'd leave him because I love him more than anything in the world, but I'd DEFINATELY ask him what he was doing, and if I EVER had a ligit reason not to trust him, I'd leave, even though it would hurt me a lot, and I dont want to take our son, who is due in Sept., away.
2006-06-30 22:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by shaunies_babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him calmly about it, find out what is really going on. Do not jump to conclusions - you need to hear what he has to say with an open mind. Has he done anything else to make you suspicious? Remember too that if a person says that the other is cheating often enough, it can come true very easily, as people act out what they think others think they are doing.
2006-06-30 22:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Veronica - why is it when a guy gets married to a wonderful woman like yourself - finds him talking with another women is way beyond me. It just seems like they are never satisfied with good a good woman and what they already have. You will have to confront him - you should already know the answers he'll give you - but just confronting him will let him know that you are not stupid and are aware of what's going on and maybe he will take that huge message to save the marriage. Good luck
2006-06-30 22:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out more about what he been doing. When he get a call, be as sneaky as you can. Make sure you hear enuf, before making choice of leaving him. Talk to him, ask him if he still feel the same way about you. You may need more proof then what you are getting now.
2006-06-30 22:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married my husband about 3 months ago. i have the same problem. Sometimes i think i made a mistake but i know he loves
me so i'm gonna stick with it. If you know u love him beyond a
shadow of a doubt, stick with him and check into the problem with the other girl. just ask him about it.
2006-06-30 22:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by thekla o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you are married. I don't know about you but when I stand up in front of everybody and God and say for better and for worse, it is not something to be taken lightly. Open up the conversation, find out what he is up to. Figure out what you have on your hands. At this point its you hearing him say something to someone. I think you need to give this every shot you have...but of course things don't always work out.
2006-06-30 22:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by c_schumacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal to feel you made a mistake.
If you did not trust him before you married him,
then prepare yourself for a big storm.
It won't get any better, if you still don't trust him.
Good Luck!
2006-06-30 22:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lucy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋