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I cut myself a couple of times, ok more than a couple of times, and i feel like crap most of the time, my parents are divorced, and im in the 7th grade (13 yrs old).. ive stopped thanks to my friends, and i want to tell my parents, i dont know how tho, also, is this a noremal stafe of growing up?????

2006-06-30 15:02:43 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style Skin & Body

sorry peepz, i CANT Talk to any one professional, i do keep a journal, but yeah, the last time was about a month ago, and i havent really thought about doing it that much.. thank god, and no im not a religious person, and well, actually my mom knoes, but luckily, she hasnt told my stpe mom or my dad. i really dont know why i did it, i mean, im such a happy person on hte outside, and so yeah, nobody relaly notices, and if they do, i get embarrase, and i make up an excuse that the dog ano or cat scratched me..

2006-06-30 16:10:51 · update #1

42 answers

Umh shawty self mutalation is not normal.. Most mutalators cut because they can not feel ..thus them cutting .. SO if you have strong issues you need to talk to an adult that you trust. It is not normal at any age to keep in your emotions, you are going thru a very tough time in your development and having people that you trust is very important..

Seek help, you have your whole life ahead of you... get through puberty have some good sex...then holla .....

4real 4real seek some help...

2006-06-30 15:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Joose 4 · 1 0

No, it's not normal. I would suggest talking to a professional psychiatrist, but that would be going against what I would do (I'm terrified of shrinks!), so my other little piece of advice is keep your hands busy if you get the urge to do it again. Hold on to your friends, because if they helped you stop the habit, then they can keep you off of it.

Things that are normal for teens are depression (everyone gets depressed), but if it lasts for a long time, then you may need some help. DON'T take antidepressants, because those aren't healthy. Just talk to your best friend. There's also the thought of cutting yourself. Every teen thinks about this (well, almost every teen).

If you still feel uncomfortable about it, though, then talk to your mom or dad (or another adult that you feel you can trust). Don't tell then that you were cutting if you don't want to, but tell them that you're having a hard time handling what's been coming at you. Also, meditation may work if you're feeling a little stressed. Look up some meditation techniques over the 'net, and try it! It really does clear your mind.

Then again, that's just what I've gotta say. Sorry if it doesn't really help. I wish you luck! ^^

2006-07-14 10:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sweety, you need to stop and the only way you're going to stop is by talking to someone. ANYONE! You are reaching out right know and that is half the battle. Not everyone has the best life and everyone deals with their emotions in a different way. Some people drink, some do drugs, this is just your outlet. What you need to realize is the cuts on your arm will only make you feel better for a little while. What is going to happen when your older and you are scarred? I had a friend who did the same thing and no matter how often she cut herself her pain on the inside never left. Trust me if you don't find help it will never go away. In the mean time why don't you try getting a Hobie, something that will take you mind of some of the stuff bothering you. This may sound weird for you being so young, but try meditating. It's not a religious thing. Get a book on Buddhism it will help. It helped me with my issues.

2006-07-14 08:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by andrea b 2 · 0 0

I don't really think this is a "normal" type of behavior either. I will start by saying that, I too, used to cut myself. I still have no idea why I used to do that. I think it was for the attention, or that I figured I could vent out life through it. I had issues with being alone, and I felt I couldn't talk to anyone. I tried to tell my mother that I needed therapy of some sort, but she didn't really believe me. In the end, I developed a relationship with God, and that is how I got through it. Maybe God isn't the right answer for you, but you need to find something you enjoy...something new, and/or something you have always wanted to try. God was not exactly a new thing to me, but the relationship I had at the time was. It helped me to see that life isn't all that bad, and everything got better after that. If you would like to tell your parents, sit down and have an adult conversation with them. Tell them about the way you feel and what you may think could help to solve the problem. Maybe its pressure from them or something else in life? Maybe it is that they are divorced and thats hard to handle? Or maybe its just the pressures of teenage life. Being a teen is tough and depressing, and we all go through it. It's very hard at times, but it will all pass. Just try to have a positive focus on the outcome. This is your life and it is what you make it to be. Good luck to you.

2006-07-14 14:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by HeavenLee 3 · 0 0

I say that you're having some problems...I don't think it's normal to cut yourslef or go anerexic or any of those types of things. Maybe you need a true friend or someone to just talk to....Your friends are right to make ou stop. Just....well I know how you feel about talking to ur parents. I don't want to say this but if I ever cut myself on purpose, I might let it just heal and never talk about it or I would see what it could look like [scrapes from a fall ext] and tghen make a lie about it. I don't like to lie and hide but some big things I do because I don't know my parents well at all. When I got my period, I called my grandma, not my mom because I didn't want to tell my mom [I was being dramatic and dumb!]. My parents are also divoreced so don't feel alone with any of this. IM me sometime.

2006-07-14 03:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It is normal to feel as though you are to blame and you don't understand what is happening. Cutting yourself isn't the answer.
Another nomal thing to do is cry out for help and attention from the 2 people you love the most. Tell them that you are upset about the divorce and need to talk about it with each of them. Don't let them blame themselves or each other. Stand up for yourself and talk about your feelings. Most parents will turn their attention to helping you instead of how they are feeling and we feel left out. We all have feelings that need to be expressed. People stop loving each other, it is a hard fact of life. some people just don't get along once they are married. Many things cause divorce. People just want to be happy, sometimes being apart is the only way to get that. They love you very much, but can get caught up in their own feelings and not be aware of your pain. Give them a chance to grow by telling them how you feel. Tell your friends that you really appreciate what they have done for you, you have good friends keep talking to them.

2006-07-13 16:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sue 4 · 0 0

First of all, you have some awesome friends!! I am so glad that they helped you stop because it is dangerous to cut yourself. They must care for you very much; you are very fortunate.

I would recommend that you tell the parent that you feel closest to about your thoughts. Ask them to take you to see a counselor. You may be just going through a hard time and you just need someone to help you refocus and get some perspective.

Be brave. As brave as you were when you cut yourself; but this time, go talk to your mom or dad instead.

Take care and God bless you.

2006-06-30 15:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by shoppingontherun 4 · 0 0

I went through the same thing in 7th grade because my parents divorced. I felt like life really wasn't worth living. Yeah I attempted other things than cutting then one day it hit me, I was so lucky to be living a life at all. So I stopped and I'm so happy. But I stopped by seeking out help from my friends and my parents.

2006-06-30 15:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by Taylurr Babee. 2 · 0 0

I used to do that too. I have really bad scars now that I get covered with tattoos, but trust me it's not normal. It's normal to feel like crap at that age, but get a punching bag or start keeping a journal rather than hurting yourself.

Only tell your parents if you think they'll understand you. Start by telling them that you've been pretty depressed lately and to make yourself feel better you cut yourself. From a scientific standpoint, the reason it makes you feel better is becasue it release endorphins into the bloodstream which gives you an instant "high". Tell them, but try to make them understand that you're not a weirdo, you were just trying to ease your emotional pain. They should go easy on you then. :)

2006-06-30 15:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It is normal to feel frustrated and too feel the way you do, however, cutting yourself is not normal. It depends on how close you are to your parents. I went through a mild bulimia moment when I was about your age, and after it was all done and over with, I told my mom, who only told people, and then bugged me about it, asking if I was doing it, and making comments that I was too skinny. It made me never trust her again. I told her because I thought it was right, but in the end it only made matters worse.

As long as you've stopped, it's ok. You have your friends. Adolescence is rough, but when you start hurting yourself, get help somehow, even if it's through your friends.

2006-07-14 07:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by kellerman83 2 · 0 0

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