husbands hanging out with friends...going to bars, and how late should they stay out?
2006-06-30 15:01:15 · 31 answers · asked by thaithaismom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he hangs out with his friends while you are out with yours that's ok. But never in a bar. That is where men meet girls and even if he is not trying to meet someone a girl will probably hit on him. He may get to drunk to remember to say no to her. He if wants to go there you go with him. You should like being together for most of the time or have other married friends so all of you hang out together.
2006-07-13 04:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many husbands never ever go out with the boys. When a man marries he isn't a boy anymore.
Going to bars with the guys spells trouble. Maybe once a month if this is something he really needs. Otherwise it is important to invite his friends over to your place for a few beers and have a time to hang out. get chips, pizza, popcorn. Turn on some music.maybe they can hang out in the garage . whatever.
It is better than him being at a bar.
How late should he stay out?????? He is a grown up with a wife, He should be home to help put the kids to bed.
What part of growup doesn't he understand?
2006-07-14 03:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hanging out with friends in bars and being a married man just don't mix, but if he must hang, I'd say once every six weeks and be home by one a.m. This is very generous. If he has a history of being wild and cheating, he probably is still doing the same. Trying to compromise is honorable but don't be a fool. Also, how would a husband feel about his wife hanging out in bars in the wee hours of the morning? If he doesn't care if you hang out, then he's surely screwing someone else or at least contemplating it.
2006-07-13 16:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how often..And how late he's coming home. However, he's married and the bar crap should be out of his system. There's nothing wrong with spending the time with the fellas and hanging out. In fact, it's good to be with friends... The question is..is he really hanging out with the fellas and what is he doing when he's out?
One evening or day when he has planned to go hang out..let him know you'll like to go and see what his reaction is..The reaction can tell a lot..The question is..what does your gut tells you? has your husband given you any reason not to trust him, how is your marriage, and is this a new pattern for him?
2006-07-12 23:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by WhatEVER27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion a husband wanting to hang out in bars without his wife is not a healthy marriage. If it is a special event or a rare thing, then is ok but on a regular basis not good. I think the wife should drop the hubby off and pick him up, that way no drinking and driving, no flings. I would say 1:00am is way late enough.
2006-07-11 14:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by jodi M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With friends? No real time, just as long as it doesn't affect the marriage. Going to bars? That's fine for a after work couple beers. ( A COUPLE, not a case, or an evening) How late? Well, since hwe's married, his evenings should be spent with his wife. Why can't he go out with her, instead of of friends? Or both should go out with friends. Basically, if either believes that the other is spending too much time out alone- then it IS too much.
2006-07-14 18:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'd be going out with him! There's nothing wrong with a guy hanging out with friends, but IF he thinks he HAS to go to a bar, I'd be suspicious of that. If he enjoys bars that much, then he needs to be taking his woman out to them with him! As far as a "curfew" that shouldn't matter. He can get into trouble just as well at 10:00 as he can at 1:00 AM! If he's a big enough boy to go out by himself, then he's big enough to decide when to come home! Good luck!
2006-07-14 18:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a husband going out with his friends. If the place is OK. Like fishing, golf. But bars, that is a place that if hes not strong when it comes to woman, he will fall for one of them sooner or later. To much temptation.
2006-07-14 14:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by Twilight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having a boundary issues with your husband. He is pushing the envelope and you are starting to not like it. Sounds like you want to put him on a shorter leash?
Did something happen recently? How long has he been hanging out late with the boys?
How long have you been feeling neglected?
2006-07-13 19:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie,
when your husband is at the bar without you. He should be grabbing you to go with him. I work at a bar. and all my friends who have wives or girl friends, go there together. The only reason your not there should be because you don't like his friends, but that shouldn't stop you. you can make friends there. Or is that the reason your not going? You must tell me more...
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2006-07-14 06:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋