I really dont lke my birth mother but i gess that i live her in some way. I am problby going to be adopted this year because my mother is problby going to spend most of the year in jail but the thing is i think that i "love" my newer mother more and i dont miss my birth mother at all, is that okay?
2006-06-30 14:49:16 · 5 answers · asked by Moe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Anger is common in adopted children. Anger for a number of reasons. Its ok not to like her. And its ok to love her even though you don't like her. The reason you "love" your new mother more is she is there to support you when you need it. You will have lots of disagreements with your "new" mother too and you will then wonder why you can't be with your birth mother. Blood is still thicker than water and you will always be attached emotionally to your birth mother. You have to understand that that will cause conflict in you. The best thing I can tell you is you need to talk to a professional and get counseling. Very few people can relate to you because they have not been there. You are VERY lucky to have a "new" mother to help you. She will be a great asset to get you through a challenging time in your life. Know one thing--- YOU CAN MAKE IT and be successful in life (and HAPPY). The challenges you face should only make you stronger.
2006-06-30 15:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It takes more than just giving birth to be a parent. You should follow your heart. Don't hate your birth mother but, forgive and let go. If in the future, if she can change, then, maybe you can let her back in. But, Its obvious (if she's doing stuff to land in jail)
she is much too selfish right now to be a good mother to you.
2006-06-30 16:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is fine, you are not required to love anyone, and if you don't feel much love for your birth mother then there's probably a good reason for it!
2006-07-01 19:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by angelsister23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats perfectly normal hun to love the one who is caring for you....You will always love your real mom even when you dont think you can....The old say " Any woman can be a mother but only a special woman can be a momma"
2006-06-30 14:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's okay dear.. maybe your birth mum wasn't that responsible than you new mom right?! it's normal if you don't miss her or if you feel you love your new mom than her.. but how many times the world revolves.. you still can't change the fact that she is your birth mom.. it ok,what you feel is normal don't ya worry..
and in this world you're not the only one feels like that..many ok.. cheer up enjoy life!!!!
2006-06-30 15:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by @>-VyNe--- 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋