Does it hurt?

Question

I wonder does it hurt when you first have sex. How can you break the nervousness of your first time?

Answer 1

It does hurt most girls when you have sex for the first time. However, there are many things that you can do to ensure that it wont hurt as much as it normally would. I sugguest going onto passionparties.com and buying a product called numbit. A few minutes before you have sex, put some in your vagina around where your hymen (flap of skin that tears during sex) is and it will numb the area. You might be saying that you want to feel all of it, but trust me... you dont. If it is going to hurt, it usually hurts a lot. If it doesnt hurt, your first time is never any good anyway, so it doesnt even matter if you feel anything or not.

Before sex, you also need to loosen up a LOT. You need a lot of foreplay before you have sex, especially the first time to make sure that you are naturally lubricated and open. If you skip foreplay, you will be freaking out and not dying to have sex, and if you want to have sex really badly the pain of your first time wont be as bad as it would be if you just go at it. If you have an orgasm before you have sex the first time, that is even better. Just make sure that you really want to have sex and the area is numb, and you should be fine.

Good luck, and dont expect much from your first time. It will get better as time goes on.

Answer 2

Yes it does hurt the first time. My current girlfriend still had her hymen and we had to get lubrication and have a second try to get me inside. The good thing is that the more you have sex, the less it hurts. I was told that it is better to relax your muscles down there to help minimize the pain. I do not think that you can truly break the nervousness the first time. I had an experienced girl help me my first time and I used my past information to help my current girlfriend the first time for her.

Answer 3

It can hurt, but not always.
If its your first time you may still have your hymen intact (the hymen is a membrane in your vagina). If its still intact this can tear during penetration causing pain and bleeding. Not all women have a hymen, and a lot of women have it tear due to regular physical activity long before they have sex the first time. Also if you're nervous your first time you may be dry which makes things very uncomfortable and possibly painful.
To break the nervousness, just make sure your first time is with someone you really care about and can talk openly to. If you can't talk openly with your partner about sex, you're not ready to have sex with them, or they're the wrong person.

Answer 4

A person is always going to be nervous the first time and it usually is somewhat painful for a woman. The best thing to do is to wait until your wedding night so that you are with a man who really loves you and cares about you.

Otherwise you may find yourself with someone who is just using you to satisfy their carnal lust and after the experience is over your will have more than the memory of the physical pain. You'll feel cheap and used and unloved.

Answer 5

I THINK IF WHEN YOU HAVE SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME THINKING THAT IT WILL HURT THEN IT WILL NOT BE A GOOD EXPERIENCE. WHEN YOU DO HAVE SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME DO NOT BE AFRAID TO TELL YOUR PARTNER WHEN IT STARTS TO HURT THAT WAY THEY COULD CHANGE THEIR POSITION AND THAT MIGHT RELIEVE THE PAIN SOME. JUST TRY TO ENJOY YOUR FIRST TIME IT MIGHT HURT WHEN IT STARTS OFF BUT TRUST ME IT WILL ONLY GET BETTER AND WHEN YOU SIT AND THINK ABOUT YOUR FIRST TIME IF THE PERSON YOU WERE WITH DID A GOOD JOB YOU WANT EVEN REMEMBER THE PAIN.

Answer 6

I don't think its supposed to hurt. Read books, talk with and know and like the person you do it with. Plan it maybe. Realize that it might take a few times to learn what you like and what feels ok. Physically and mentally both. Its supposed to feel really good, thats why people do it.

Answer 7

its hurts, but sometimes it depends on the person you planning on losing your virginity to. if you really love this person and this not a person you met more than likely he would take his time penetrating you, but if he's someone that don't give a damn, more than likely he's going to force and ram it in you and that is something you do not want.

Answer 8

It hurt me a little, but it is different for everyone. Be honest with your companion and tell them it is your 1st time.

Answer 9

Of course it hurts the first few times "collegegirl".... Are you really in college?

Answer 10

yes it does, but the guy could make it less painful if he was gentle and considerate. If you are still a virgin, remain so until you have a lifelong commitment, you will be glad you did (I did so I know)