When it's good (90% of time) it blows me away. Beyond dreams. Beautiful spiritual connection. He's got big baggage that he's actively pulling out to deal with. He's determined to heal and inspiring in his approach. Last year he had the worst depressive, then worst manic episode of his life. Came through to a strong, healthy place. But it scared the crap out of him. Me too. Him - medication, therapists, good friends, big choices, self care. Me - feel isolated, scared and maybe stupid. 15 yrs ago I chose an abusive man. Lots of solid growth since then. Learned to love myself. Love this man. Love who he is. Love who I am with him. But his bipolar possibilities TERRIFY me. No physical fear, just confusion, loneliness, isolation, frustration, lack of dependability. No children or big $$ involved. Just hearts.
Can there be hope?
2006-06-30 14:33:50 · 6 answers · asked by kittensaver 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course there's hope. People marry people knowing they have diabetes, or a heart condition, or any other numerous health problems. Bipolar disorder is a health problem, just of the mental variety. Ensure that both you and he have outside support, and talk to him about what he needs when he is in a manic or depressive state so that you both feel more prepared to handle it. Good luck!
2006-06-30 14:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly in love with this man, trust him, respect him, are best-friends with him
all of which I DO detect in your words;
then you need to make sure he gets to his medical doctor and gets on LITHIUM.
This Rx is made for his disease, and will help him so much, he will feel totally well.
The trick is this (pay attention) it will help him SO MUCH he will think he does not need the medication anymore. That is how well it works,
AS LONG AS he takes it religiously every day as the doctor says.
Then, get yourself prepared to DEAL WITH his episodes: Be a strong person, not wishy washy, not mean, but very firm.
He will be happier, and so will you, if you just treat his depresson and manic episodes any time they might occur, with the DETACHMENT, so that you do not take anything personally.
Look up Manic Depression / Bi-polar disease so you will understand how his emotions swing back and forth farther than normal.
Help him practice the difficult control he must learn.
And give him lots of love, because he really needs it, even if he is ranting or raging.
Get his RESPECT, and the raging will decrease.
I wish you both love
stw
2006-06-30 21:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lady who met a man she fell madly in love with who is bipolar. For a few years it was hard for her to deal with the disorder, but they're still together, she's very happy with him and it's been 6 years now. I have no first hand experience with the disorder, but my gut instinct is that if you love the person truly, then you might take him as he is. On the other hand, you need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself whether you can deal / live with his disorder including the possible worst case scenario.
2006-06-30 22:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of question is this? I am sure you have your problem too, I don't see him posting on this site. You love him, that's all. keep him on his meds and deal with it. 90% is a hell of a lot better than the other 10% It's a no brainier.
Good luck!
2006-06-30 21:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope, as long as you go into it knowing what is ahead.
2006-06-30 21:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a kitten cannot tame a bear.
2006-06-30 21:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by firewall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋