I feel I've lost trust in my wife of 25 years things are't adding up .do I have the right to check up on her .

Question

recently I've found several things that don't make sense to me and when I asked her about them . If she doesn't get mad , or change the subject , or just refuses to answer , or turns it around and makes it as I'm the bad guy by telling me I had no right to look there . Or you're just blowing things out of proportion there's nothing to worry about . This is all OK except the questions I ask never get answered and has a love her very much and have always trusted her . All these things are adding up and causing my suspicions and even jealousy to become a problem for me to control myself so far I've been able to control these feelings but now she tells me she must work late on paperwork which isn't out of the ordinary but this is a very special weekend and work cannot always be this important besides she works tomorrow . Is it wrong for me or even dangerous to my relationship for me to check up on her I guess you would call it spying if she caught me the damage would be I don't trust

Answer 1

Go thru her underware draws and smell your undies, Look to see if they are in the hammper.. look to see if she is buying new bra's and lingra but you have never seen her put them on.. at night check her car and under her seat, check the trunk and under the rugs, Somewere there is the truth.. Pay the Privit Dective for a days job and let him get down to the truth.. there is eveidence somewere.. you can rent a car and follow her. if need be.

Get the facts first, then the truth will come out. once it dose then all you can do is accept the truth and take the matter to the corts and let then handle it..

or you can just wait and see if she has all the wildness out of her bones they always come home.. always.. in the end.. it is just a teenager in a womens body wanting freedom you see.

anyway.. if it dose not work out.. look up your cuz and have a hot sexy affair with her.. lol later dude.. ???? hot and sexy..

Answer 2

i wouldn't check up on her, trust her and if she is cheating it will come out sooner or later....once u start checking up on her then the trust is gone and if she found out and nothing was going on then she will have resentment....i would wait a while and see how things work out...ask your self a few questions...hows your love life? r u keeping her happy?this is very hard to give advice about and jealousy is not good at all.please don't drive yourself crazy and letting your mind run wild.....set down and talk to her tell her to be honest with u.tell her u have to be re insured that u r the only man in her life....u need communication and trust.....gl

Answer 3

I think that after 25 years, no one knows your wife like you. If something is up, you NEED proof. It's not wrong to check up on her as long as you don't get caught. But whether you catch her in the act or not, at least you'll have proof and piece of mind.

Answer 4

I believe if you are married to someone and they are doing something they shouldn't be doing, you have every right to check up on them. I don't think there is anything wrong with spying on your spouse. They shouldn't be doing anything they would hide from you anyways.

And yes I am married. We've been married for 11 years.

Answer 5

Show up at her work place with dinner and flowers and tell her you know she's working hard and you're sorry. If she isn't there....then you'll know things aren't adding up for sure and you were right all along.

Answer 6

Check it out and make sure you don't get caught

Answer 7

Yes you have the right!!!!!!!!! Remember she said "I do" as well. I guarantee you if she thought it was you doing the cheating, she would be sneaking