Is Heterosexuality a Choice?

Question

I want to know, at what age, did Straight men wake up and decide they were going to be straight. Was this decision an informed choice? I can only assume that all straight men who say Gay is choice, had that choice, and after trying both sides of the fence over and over, enough times to become informed, made the decision to be straight...that is the only conclusion I can reach...so, at what age did you straight men decided that being Gay didn't work for you and you wanted to be straight?

Come on, guys...don't use the cop out, "Natural, reproduction, etc.." You say it is a choice, so answer the question or stow it...when did you decide to go straight? Simple questions need only simple answers, I didn't say answers from simpletons. When did you decide to be straight...

Answer 1

YOU ARE BRILLIANT! ...and unfortunately misunderstood.

Nothing satisfies like a rhetorical question.

Answer 2

Everything is a choice. It's not your choice to have a certain impulse or favor, but it's your choice to pursure it. Nobody wakes and be straight any more than someone wakes up and decides to be gay. It's a choice, made over years of social and psychosexual development. For example, a man who chooses to be gay has often been identified as a man who lacked a stable and loving relationship with his father. Some have, and have another lack. All of us are different, and we all make choices.
I decided that being gay wasn't for me because I loved the idea of being married to a woman and having a family since I was very young. It's still what I want, even though I haven't found a woman that loves me enough to stick around.

Answer 3

It must be, mustn't it?

I don't talk about it a lot, but I have and older brother... and he's straight. It obviously concerns my parents becase, well... since he... you know... "bred," they spend an awful lot of time at his house. It's just a few minutes from me and they never tell me they've been there until afterward. I think it's because they're kind of ashamed. Of him and this blatantly hetersexual lifestile he leads.

I mean he's married and all, but you know how their relationships wind up. It's only a matter of time.

I know it doesn't really answer your question, but I just had to get it off my chest. Please pray for my brother, that he will someday make the right choice. Maybe he can first recover if he moves from the suburbs and into the city, see also Solomon, 3:1-5.

Answer 4

Well....not exactly. It is natural for our species to reproduce, which would mean that its in us to do so with the opposite sex, so I dont think it's really a choice. In the case of homosexuality, I think that is both choice and (this will sound bad) "defect" They are probably born that way and cannot fight it because that is who they are, where as others might just choose it as a preference for one reason or another. I read somewhere how femenine products and what not are putting more estrogen into water supplies, which would probably cause more femenine guys (maybe, thats what their theory was) which is not a good thing because it could cause some guys to become sterile, we wouldn't want that huh?

That's all I got right now, I could debate that for hours, but I wont do it.

Answer 5

LOL! love the question - but why bait them?

Mithril: careful with your choice of words. I have no choice in being Bi and I cannot choose to be straight or gay. I only choose to act or not on the attraction I have with a person. The relationship may be gay or straight, but I remain Bi. I'm sure that's what you'd meant to say - but it could so easily be misread & misunderstood.

Answer 6

For bisexuals, it is a choice. Most gay people are looking for monogamy, like straight people, so the bisexual has the capacity to choose whether or not to become involved in a hetero or homosexual relationship. For everyone else, it's not a choice. It's just a plain old fact.

Answer 7

I do not believe so at all nor is homosexuality. With all the sex in the media you would wonder then why homosexuals do not turn straight.

I once read in the Times that there could be a gene for homosexuality....Bi-sexual people : I don't know....

People who are molested by the same sex tend to become the same too........

It is getting very mysterious.

Well.......I never thought I had a choice myself........did not need to consider the question.

Answer 8

When I was 10 years old, a 14 year old boy molested my little brother. My brother had the choice right then and there if he wanted to take it up the A$$ or run like hell...It was a CLEAR choice. He ran like hell, reported the guy and the bastard went to Juvenile detention for 2 years. He knew right then and there that it was wrong...at age seven my brother made the choice to be STRIGHT

Answer 9

Good question and the answer is no. I've tried asking this before of some of the bigots on this site who think that sexuality is a lifestyle choice.

I'm straight but i don't remember choosing to be, if i did i'd probably choose to go with women, they don't cost so much to feed... :p

Answer 10

perhaps its the nature/nurtue debate. i think that when u grow up everything just appears as tho being hetro is the norm, its only when some start feeling different and attracted to same sex do we then make our choice on how we live our lives.
straight didnt work for me because i wasnt feeling what hetro ppl were feeling when in a man/woman relationship.

Answer 11

I'm a straight woman, and I don't believe sexual preference is a choice. At least nobody I've ever spoken with said anything about choosing to be who/how they were.