2006-06-30 14:08:53 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry, i meant 13yrs.... twin boys ! They are adorable
2006-06-30 14:20:10 · update #1
Contact social services and start some type of child support
You will need the help
he probably thinks he can get off scott free
2006-06-30 14:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As hard as this is on you there is only one thing to do. Get a lawyer.
Have a friend or family member help you with this and be sure you sit down with them and think this thru.
Once you get a lawyer to help you things will begin to move. You must be ready for that and know what all the questions should be.
A friend or family member that you can trust is the best resource you have right now. You will get a lot of answers here but no-one has a vested interest so any answer you get Will not be a lot of help.
You must know if that relationship is over or just needs some distance for awhile. And he is responsible for that baby as much as you so if you can't get him to help on his own then a lawyer can make him.
I know all of this is very traumatic for you. However there is no easy way to get through this. Wishing for the best will not get it. You must work toward it and so does your husband.
If he walked out because of something you did that hurt him then you have to make that right or move on.
I wish you the very best.
2006-06-30 14:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a blow to your heart & soul that must be!!! You will be lost but not for long. He sounds like another weak, scared, lazy, untrustworthy, now balls kind of guy. I think you meant yrs. didn't you. It really doesn't matter I guess, he is still a sorry S O B! It's a little to late for the children though. They are the ones that it's really going to hurt. It is pretty common these days. I don't know your whole story but I believe when it comes down to the real issue, you can do it... You have too! You have no choice.. Thank god they have financial aid & help in these situations. You really should not let him just walk away scott free though. Just get yourself settled and those baby's secured. Then get his
A S S. There are to many dead beat dads now. They just keep getting away with it. GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR BABYS'...
2006-06-30 14:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to go on.You have two new babies to take care of, with or without him.You need support, such as friends and family.Maybe he just was overwhelmed and needed a break.But that's NO excuse to leave you.I know things seem hard right now, but they will get better.I have been there.there is a reason for everything and if he is soooooo selfish that he walks out on you, with new babies, then he doesn't deserve you anyways.Take friends and family up on the support.When they offer to help cook, clean, take care of the little ones, let them.This will give you a break, which you really will need.Also, NO man, and I mean MAN, walks out on his wife and kids.So, he needs to grow up and leave his childhood behind him.No matter what happens, live for those babies.I promise you that things WILL look up.It will take time for your heart to heal.Good luck.
2006-06-30 14:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. First, get his butt into court and get child support. If he's physically not going to be there, make darn sure that he is at least in the money department! Second, I'd suggest finding a daycare soon and finding a job. Third, get over the guy! You just gave birth to his children (which I'm sure are just adorable - and you should be feeling good about performing a miracle that he could NEVER accomplish) and he walks out? What s his problem?
Good Luck!
2006-06-30 14:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by beauvoir_babe1865 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find yourself a new beginning place and start there. I was married for a year to a guy and I had four kids. My story is a little different because I left him and took my kids with me. He was strung out on dope. I moved from CA to OK and lived with my parents until I could find a job and get a place to live. I've been back here for 4 years and I'm doing great and so are my kids. If you just pray and have faith I know you will accomplish what you need to. If you need to talk im me.
2006-06-30 14:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by jillybean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's awful and I am so sorry he did that to you! He does not sound like a real man to me because a real man would never abandon his wife and family. I wish there was something I could say that would help you as I know you are suffering from this act of selfishness. I will pray that things will get better for you soon because certainly you deserve better than this coward.
2006-06-30 14:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by toughguy2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. I'm really sorry this happened to you. Obviously there were underlying problems that were there; and you did'nt want to see; or he was not totally honest with you. Either way; your main concern now is you and the kids. I would encourage you to have a support group around you that can help you directly. This is something that your husband can't fix by a simple,"I'm sorry"
2006-06-30 14:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by runner45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called Child Support dear. Although you may want to get to the reasoning behind him walking out first, he should have known there were kids on the way and spoken about it before if he had a problem.
2006-06-30 14:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call my family that i am closest to and ask for help...and never let that man back in your sight.. honestly this is such a terrible thing i do not even know how to answer..but basically you have to have help....i am so sorry to even hear this question... if your family can not help go to a church and see if they can help or put you into contact with someone that can help.. i know i would help myself and i know there is people out there that do care and will help... the thing is , is knowing how to go about getting this help....i would contact every church in the phone book and see if they no someone to put you in contact with to help you.. that is if you do not have family that can help you until you get on your feet...i hope this helps you some.. take one day at a time and god be with you.....
2006-06-30 14:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋