My Boyfriend is srsly in love with me and he never wants to lose me. but the thing is, is that i dont love him like he loves me. i have no happiness when im with him. and i dont want to break up with him, only because he is suicidal, and i am keeping him from killing himself. so what do i do? he goes to counseling and it doesnt help. but then again when im not with him i miss him more than anything....=[
2006-06-30 13:43:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you miss him so much, how can you say you're not in love with him? Perhaps one of the best things to do is to ask him to back off a little bit. He may be 'suffocating' you, not giving time for love to grow.
2006-06-30 13:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by James_Stormwind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a healthy space, get out before he takes you with him. No adult can make another adult do anything (staying alive or commiting suicide) you are responsible for you not him. Real love is about what each of you can bring to the relationship to help your partner be the best they can be in every way. 100%/100%, not 50-50. I've been where you are and it only gets worse. The missing is about the physical or sexual part of your relationship, if that wasn't an issue what would you have? Talk to a counselor for domestic violence, NOW!
2006-06-30 13:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because someone loves you doesn't mean you have to love them in return. you need to b honest with him about the way you feel. im sorry but if he cant get a grip on not having you around he needs to work that out with professional help it is not your place to play nurse maid...if you miss him when your not with him maybe you need to have some counseling for your self to help you through the lose. this is not a healthy relationship for either of you move on before there is no way out.
2006-06-30 13:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by tiffani h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I don't understand is why stay with someone that makes you unhappy. Maybe you should talk to his family about the suicidal thing. He could just be using that as his ace, knowing if you think he will kill himself you won't break up with him. This is controlling you and you really don't need it. Talk to his family about your concerns and learn to trust your instincts and feelings.
2006-06-30 13:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to have a serious sit down with him and ask where he thinks things are going and then let him know how you feel. but also let him if you plan on being there for him. and maybe he needs to find a different counselor or a group type thing. he could also try a psychiatrist to talk out things. good luck!
2006-06-30 13:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by id2no1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no possible way to do it kindly. Its only kindly if you both are in agreement. Just confront him and try your best to keep a straight face and tell him you don't have feelings for him anymore.
2016-03-26 23:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to control you.If you're not happy leave,if he tries to kill himself it's not your fault.He's playing guilt games & I think he's full of sh*t!!!He sounds like a real p*ssy.You deserve better!!!
2006-06-30 13:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by Troy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
find out what turns him off and do that so he will break up with u
2006-06-30 14:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out what you really want!
2006-06-30 13:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell him but don't brake his heart. just say we are friends to him.
2006-06-30 13:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋