Here we go again. Today I asked my husband to let me call his ex wife in CT to see if she would be willing to drop her name off of the joint account that they both share since my husband wants to keep it because his car insurance comes out of it. My husband flips, basically says heck no, and then hangs the phone up in my face. I call him back, and ask him what is the deal and he replies, "this whole thing is nonsence, she is not going to talk to you, what do you have to say to her anyway, I'm the one who is going to have to pay the price for this"???? What? By now I'm confused so he continues with, "you are pregant with twins no less, and therefore your hormones will make you unreasonable". By now, I am thoroughly disgusted. What do you think is really going on?
2006-06-30 13:34:50 · 32 answers · asked by candy0813 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-06-30 13:37:42 · update #1
first of all, congrats on the twins. but i (and my true personal opinion) think that there may be a FRIENDSHIP that neither one of them is going to let go. notice the caps. ok, one, he may not want to get you and her into an arguement (which i feel there will be none) and two, as i said, there may be something there that he wants to hold on to for some reason. i would press the issue of him taking her name off or simply opening a new account and changing the info with whoever the bill is being paid to. sounds simple to me. and the hanging up thing is so disrespectful. regardless of the subject, that shouldn't happen. you're carrying his babies for goodness sake. hope everything works out.
2006-06-30 13:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by id2no1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Irregardless of why he will not let you talk with her, he needs to get her name off that joint account. What the crap is that about anyways. My car insurance comes out of an account at the bank too, but if I got divorced, I would get a new account. It only takes about 15 minutes at the bank and its done. you cant drop a name off of an account. The account has to be closed and a new one can then be opened by your husband.
He is hiding something from you.
2006-06-30 16:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is anything unreasonable about his request to handle the situation. Think about it...the new wife talking to the old wife..can you say awkward? Plus, if things ended badly between them, you calling may only worsen the situation and she may feel attacked. Yes, it seems a little strange that they still have a joint account. But I would still let him handle it. Just be firm that you would feel more comfortable if they didn't share the account and go from there.
2006-06-30 13:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by ladyrn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would have allready called her. No way I would marry a guy who has a joint account with another women. Not saying he is cheating but aren't you worried he is still seeing her, come on what girl in her right mind would have a joint account with a man she wasn't involved with? Don't BE A DORMAT GIRL men lie and do bad things you have A RIGHT TO PROTECT YOURSELF. do you think he would be getting mad if thhere wasnt a reason for you two not talking? JUst dont tell him or ask him if its ok just call her. dont be crazy to the girl you never know how she really is, you got to be smart when you call her. keep me posted!
2006-06-30 13:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by Eve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be a very nice person and you may be opening up a new can of worms. First of all he needs to separate the insurance and then that way they will have no ties together. Unless they have children there is no reason his name should be on any account with hers anymore.
2006-06-30 13:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by G L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i talked to my husband 's ex wife for the first time she told all kinds of horrible things about him. i believe her at first we almost broke up i was pregnant at the time got really upset very stressed it was a ugly mess i later found out that she is just a big liar so maybe your hubbys ex is the same he is only protecting you from stress you don't need. plus maybe talking to her about a joint account they had together is something he should do . good luck
2006-06-30 13:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by soulmate62103a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it looks like a rat, and it smells like a rat, it is a rat. Something isn't right. Why would a man who is divorced continue to have a joint account with his ex-wife. Something isn't right about this situation. You have every reason to be suspicious. I am divorced myself and the last thing I want to have is my ex-wife's name associated with any of my accounts. Don't let him throw you off with crap about your hormones. That situation definitely warrants investigating.
2006-06-30 13:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could also be competent to dossier an abadonment order for him leaving behind her, however he can declare visitation rights for the kids in spite of everything except he offers up his parental rights. Some states have less difficult abandonment legislation, however they don't follow to parental proper for visitation. Especially if he's furnishing aid cash for them.
2016-08-20 10:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by ohrmund 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's full of crap.All he has to do is tell the insurance company he changed accounts.There is no reason to share an account with his ex.I think he's still messing with her.Hell he might still be married & your marriage is'nt legal.Something is definetly wrong.Call her anyway & see what happens.
2006-06-30 13:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be allowed to check out the account from time to time to make sure the other woman aint got her claws into you and your husbands wallet. She KNOWS what weakens him to follow her every beg and call. Come on baby girl, get yourself together.
2006-06-30 13:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Yahoo answer dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋