why is it that?

Question

so many girls play hard to get

Answer 1

so you will stay with us longer and so we can see what we can get away with for future reference... sorry to tell you that

Answer 2

Is that right? I never knew that. Of course, I'm a woman not a girl. So I guess society has changed it's viewpoints and the girls today are players, you know, like boys & men. Perhaps you've just been experiencing "girls" that are just too young and not ready for a relationship yet. good luck.......

Answer 3

I guess they want to be sure of the guy before they commit to a relationship.

For example, if he's just sitting around there and not moving anything, they will conclude that he is not interested and... in such a case, he definitely doesn't deserve her time or attention - these are golden rules... for every girl who wants to have a good relationsip with the guy, afterwards!

If the guy loves them, he should not give up. If he gives up, it means to her that you never loved her and she will go. Quite simple.

Answer 4

They want to see how much you really want them
and how far you will go to get them. But if they really want you, and you play hard to get they will do the same its like cat and mouse.

And then you have the girl's who are not playing. They just are hard to get. And when they say NO they mean NO.

Answer 5

Many younger girls think it intrigues guys, and it makes some with low self-esteem feel better about themselves to have a guy chasing after them.

Answer 6

Most girls don't, most girls are just looking for the perfect guy. But is there really such a thing?? Just be yourself and you will find someone. We don't just want someone that wants to get in our pants. we want a REAL relationship.

Answer 7

Because you guys like the thrill of the chase ( you know hunter/gatherer stuff) Its like instinct or something

Answer 8

Beacuse it's fun to confuse guys. Also, it lets us know how badly they wanna be with us...power to us girls :)

Answer 9

Cause its not hard enough.

Answer 10

maybe you're trying too hard. maybe your looking in the wrong places, or the wrong way.

instead of trying to act cool, be yourself. look at who your about to talk to, and dont give an automated response. everything you say to every girl should be different. pay attention to what she's doing. maybe she's wearing a band T shirt you like. a great introduction would be "oh, you like yeah yeah yeahs? you didnt go to that concert they played at a couple months ago, did you? the drumer threw his drumstick at the audience, and i think this guy i went to high school with caught it, but he was pretty far away, so i couldent see. you wernt there were you? it was a great concert." (bands like TOOL, or anything huge or widespred arent a good example of "oh, you like ______?" if everybody likes them, the girl will know you are hitting on her, and you are sunk. its not cool when your just hitting on them. girls want to feel individually important. you are only talking to them because you wanted to ask them a question, and halfway through the conversation, then you can start acting like "hey this lady is pretty cool! maybe i dont just want to make conversation anymore" and THEN, maybe, make your move. "do you like sushi? this great place just opened up downtown, its called shushi and more, its not just sushi, but i've been looking for somebody cool to eat there with before i tried it. i'm buying!" if she takes the bait, of course set it up for a date and a time, possibly the same evening at 6. (dont make her take the same car as you, that will freak her out, she doesnt even know you, and there are weirdos that will try and offer to drive her there, just offer to meet her there, dont freak her out.) if she says no, dont push it, dont offer to meet her somewhere else, if she turns you down once, shes going to turn you down again and again. dont take it so hard. just because shes soo cool, and shes sooo not interested doesnt mean its the end of the world. treat every woman as though they might only be your friend at first. dont treat them like they are automaticly just going to want to treat you like you're the best guy in the world, you need to show them first. be sweet, and be cool about everything.

she might turn you down, but then, say something like "oh, i've already ate there, but it made me sick! they're just not kosher if you know what i mean... how about that great place on main street, wasnt it Bostin Market, i know its fast food, but if you havent already tried it, they're great!" that means you sugested the wrong thing, but she is interested.

if she flat turns you down, she might already be taken, she might already know what shes looking for, and dont take it so hard if its just not you. its not the end of the world, and you will hardly ever get exactly what you want out of a girl. be paitent, keep trying (just not so hard and often) people can tell when you're the least bit exaserated, or flustered. even if you dont think you get this way after 2 or 3 turndowns, you do. leave it for a day, or at least for a couple hours. and dont hang around the same spot. think about shopping around in a record store, and then approaching a girl looking at buying a CD. if she acts pissed off, or bothered, say something like "i'm sorry, i'll leave you alone if you want, i didnt want to bother you. i just like those guys too, and i've bought that album, but i havent bought the one that came out before it. i can vouch for that one you have in your hands, you didnt have the other one, whats it called, um, _____, do you?" if she gives you an answer, persue the conversation. if she kind of brushes you off, shes probably scared, just give it up.

now, hygene. make sure you dont smell. powerfull aftershaves or guy perfumes are a no-no. a little spritz of something is ok, but personaly, (and this doesnt count for all girls, but..) i hate it when guys and girls alike are overpowered with a smell, even if it is only one, or if it was meant to be pleasant, its just UGH! cant stand it.

there are alot of girls out there that dont mind one way or the other, but its sort of obvious you're trying to hard when you reek of any one thing, good or bad.

at the end of a dinner, you can tolorate her, and she seems to be OK with you, give her your phone number, ask for hers, (please no, stupid catch phrases) a simple "is it OK if i call you?" and then if she says sure, ask her when a good time to call her, or if she shouldent be getting calls at a certain time. if she changes the conversation without actually handing you her phone number, and she actually said yes, it was ok if you called her, sometime before you leave (dont make it a priority, nobody likes somebody acting desperate) but casually say sometime before you end up calling it an evening "oh, i didnt get your phone number yet" try your best not to be demanding, and of course, if she's already said you cannot call her, then dont say that. if you really feel like you like her, and she has made it so she doesnt want to talk to you, make sure its the end of the night, so you dont seem like a sad puppy dog (its sort of stupid.) say something like "i think your really cool. if i cant call you, can i at least meet you again next week, same time same place?" or something similar.

if she says yes, dont expect her to pay next week. shes coming because she wants to give you another shot, so keep acting like yourself (cause girls are going to see right through some facade.) and dont blow it. girls dont give 2nd chances real often.

just be nice. dont be cool, or suave, or savvy, just be you. your just a guy that likes to have a good dinner, with a nice girl once in awhile.