My friend is kinda a pain. Sometimes I love her but sometimes I can't stand her. She brakes plans all the time and sometimes doesn't even call me. Its hard to get her modivated to do anything so we really don't do much. I need ideas, PLEASE HELP!
2006-06-30 12:33:54 · 29 answers · asked by Kate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should tell her how you feel about her always breaking plans and being a pain. If she is really your friend she will try to understand and make things better.
2006-06-30 12:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by Shira 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with one of my friends. Sometimes it feels like I am the only one putting any effort into the friendship. So a few weeks ago it got really bad and I decided I wasn't going to let it just depress me anymore...so I talked to her. I explained everything I was feeling and I told her that I was done being the only person who cares. She appologised and she's getting better. You just need to be completely (and nicely!!) honest with her. Tell her that you don't feel like she wants to spend time with you and it hurts when she constantly breaks plans. Your friend is probably unaware that she is treating you badly. And you never know, she might have some stuff going on that shes just afraid to talk to you about right now. You being honest with her could inspire her to be more honest with you.
So just talk it out. And remember...as sad as it is and as much as you don't want it to happen, friends DO drift apart, and people make new friends. If you talk to her and she doesn't change, it may be time for you to find someone who will be excited to go out and do stuff with you.
2006-06-30 19:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friendship is like a relationship and your friend is the “man”. Some times when you have been friend with someone for a long time they don’t think they need to work on the friendship. Just treat her like you would a Boyfriend instead of a “girlfriend” and see what happens. I have been in this situation with a few friends it may take a while but if she is really your friend you guys will get through this.
2006-06-30 19:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by patchesvz121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Maybe You Could Ask Her To Come Over And If She Says No Ask Her Why. And If She Comes Over And Is Being A Little Rude Be Nice And She Might Deside To Be Nice Maybe She Has No One To Look Up To Bc Maybe Her Family Fights A Lot. Remember Try Not To Be Rude To Her! If She Is Really Not Softning Up The Treat Her How She Does To You And She Might Relize How Rude It Is.
2006-06-30 19:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can help im good with friend probs! Okay, well, it would help if there was a little more info on this. Like how good of friends you are. But my best guess would be there's something wrong in her life. Or she doesn't like you anymore.
But i think there's a problem in her life, she needs to talk about it or wants to keep it private. I would suggest trying to talk to her, just be there to support her, and ask her if anything is wrong. But if you want to still be her friend, you have to tell her how you feel. Don't be mean to her like OTHER PEOPLE have said, just be cool about it, be polite, but tell her whats buggin you. If you really like her as a friend, then don't NOT be her friend. You should. Just you need to figure out whats going on.
2006-06-30 19:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is tell her that your relationship isn't a very strong one anymore because you feel like she ditches you and that maybe she doesn't deserve your friendship. See what she thinks of what you said to her. If she starts being more loyal and nice, then she's definitely a friend to keep. If she's being worse or doesn't change at all, I guess it's time to get a new friend!
2006-06-30 19:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by cutestuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call this a friend? I would suggest that you tell her what you just told us. That you want to still be friends with her but you find her lack of responsiveness frustrating. Remember, how she responds is her issue not yours. I am going to guess you are a teenager. Maybe you could choose nights to spend with her and spend other evenings with other people so that you are still having some fun. You don't want to live your life like this.
2006-06-30 19:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but sometimes you should let her know that it upsets you, in a polite but honest way. Make plans with other friends too, and she may even want to join in eventually. That way, you'll have fun and she will learn what's 'normal' and hopefully get a clue as to respecting other people's time and friendship.
2006-06-30 19:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by TL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like that, and I just quit doing things with her. I had more fun doing things I wanted to, when I wanted to. Once she see's you're not dependant on her for being there, then she may get her act together. It's much more fun to do what you want, when you want, and how you want, then to wait on someone else to have fun with. Be independent!. You can only find happiness within.
2006-06-30 19:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by JBWPLGCSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like this before. The only thing to do is to tell her how you feel. And that its annoying that she breaks plans and doesn't call you. As for me and my friend ... she didn't stop so we are no longer talking.
2006-06-30 19:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋